(Closed) Mom and Pinterest… say something or let it go?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

If she can switch it to private, I would do that. But if she can’t, she can aways explain it as “Well, I hope they’ll be having some grandbabies for me SOON!”

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d ask her to change the name to “I hope I have grandkids!”

I have a friend with two boys and a Pinboard called “Maybe?” that she keeps pinning baby/pregnancy stuff to.  Obviously she is trying for a girl (and would love a 3rd boy – she’s a great mom).  🙂  But she’s had a lot of struggles with conceiving and miscarriages so it’s just maybe she’ll want another baby in a year or two or never. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PoppyH:  Ugh, I would have been PISSED!  Definitely tell her to either change the name to something less descriptive or make it private.  I would also have a general talk with her about keeping her mouth shut when she’s speaking to people in person.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree with

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@sugar_biscuit:  (Reply # 13) not everyone I’ve discovered is as computer knowledgeable as you might be or think… I am a technology nut, and I am constantly amazed how many people cannot do what I see as the simpleist of things on the net

(Lol, and I am over 50… so it blows my mind when I have to explain stuff to people even younger than myself)

Lots of people seem to assume that when it says “MY ACCOUNT” on a website that their info is somehow isolated from the rest of the world… (Pinterest, FaceBook etc).

Can make for a lot of Etiquette Faux Pas

It isn’t a huge awful thing she’s done, as you say you have no idea who follows her postings.  BUT it does have (a) your real name and (b) info you have chosen not to share (the pregnancy) so YES you need to say something and give her the full scoop

If it was me, I’d very gently let her know about the fact one can have PRIVATE BOARDS on Pinterest, a lot of people don’t know that

And secondly… If it was me, I’d also have a conversation about oversharing… in particular the use of real names.

I’d never use my full name, say Poppy HisGirl on the Internet… at the most Poppy H, and if there could be any connection made, maybe just PH… or a full-on alias like I have here on WBee…

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@PoppyH:  Eh. It’s not like she said “YourRealName’s Future Little One Which She Is Currently Pregnant With”. If asked she could say you were trying, or she’s just hoping. I mean, hell, I have a baby board and I’m not even married yet and nowhere near TTC. My dad is so baby crazy, if he had a pinterest it would probably just be football and babies. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not even TTC, and my mom has a board on her Pinterest for “MyRealName’s future babies”. I don’t think most people would assume you’re pregnant from that honestly, just because there’s so much fantasizing and “one-day”ing on Pinterest.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@PoppyH:  It’s completely reasonable to ask your mom to make the board private & if like others said that means she has to start with a new private board and delete the current one that’s okay. This isn’t her news to publicize on the web… I have seen a couple of friends with boards called Baby #2 and then I’ve stalked the heck out of their facebook looking for/waiting for an announcement. So yes I think people will catch on to your mama’s baby board and start thinking that you are KU. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

FWIW, I wouldn’t assume you were pregnant just because of a “future baby” board, my pinterest is drowned in those 🙂

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

@PoppyH:  I would definitely say something!  She is being careless with the special news you trusted her with.  She should respect you more instead of potentially betraying your trust. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@PoppyH:  She may not have known! When I started using instagram I didn’t realize it was a social network.

 

I would definitely inform her once she gets home though.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think just from that alone I would assume you are PG. After all, it does say “Future”. I have a Pinterest board labeled “Maybe Baby?” that I’ve been pinning to pre-TTC and it’s so full that I have a lot of random people following it too and no one in my personal life has asked about it. I honestly see a ton of Pinterest boards that are all labeled with some variation of maybe/future/someday/etc.

 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That reminds me of last week when my mom posted a photo of my trying on my wedding dress on FB and tagged me AND FH! Luckily I have tag review on and he never goes on FB – my best friend is a friend of my mom so she noticed it right away and I asked my mom to take it down. She felt bad – she was just so excited and didn’t think – but I was MORTified! 

If I were you, I’d ask your mom to make the board private or at least change the name to make it less obvious that she’s thinking of a specific grandchild-to-be and more like “ideas for my possible future grandkids”.

And congrats on your pregnancy btw!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@PoppyH:  Just tell her to either delete the board or make it private. Does she know it’s public?

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I totally don’t assume anyone’s pinterest boards mean anything, I have friends without bfs planning weddings and babies,  I have like three hundred baby pins and no baby here anytime soon. I think as long as it isn’t the ONLY thing she pins, it would be more obvious to delete it. 

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