(Closed) Mom and Sister won’t let me see my dress!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i left my dress at my mom’s house on purpose after i bought it – that way i wouldnt be too tempted to put it on and dance around in it 🙂

as far as finding a pic of it, do you have the style number?  my dress was discontinued shortly after i bought it, but a google image search of the style number and designer still brings it up

Post # 4
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

If I were you I would go over and say that it is your dress and not theirs to hold hostage from you. This is almost as bad as the cat thread. What about when you have to have alterations done? Are they still going to want you to keep your eyes closed? How about when you want to pick our jewelry to go with your dress? This seems insane to me. I would not stand for it that is for sure.

Post # 5
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2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would politely talk to them and remind them that any other bride planning a wedding gets to see their dress and pictures to decide on accessories.

If I were dealing with someone treating me like I was 12, I would go out and buy myself a dress and skip them all together.

Post # 6
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I see what your family is trying to do, and that is sweet that they want to keep the feeling of the dress being new and exciting.

But keeping your dress hostage to the point where you can’t even match accessories to it is taking things too far.

You need to sit down with them and explain this. They don’t have a right to be doing this and it’s hurting your feelings, not helping.

Post # 7
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Contact Davids Bridal and have them look up your customer info.  They should have a record of what you bought.

Post # 8
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That’s so weird and I would be so irritated. I mean, a little dress regret is inevitable but, dude. It’s your dress. You need at least a picture in order to figure out hair/makeup/jewelry/shoes/etc.

They’re being ridiculous.

Post # 9
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, I think their hearts are in the right place, but remind them you need to see it one more time to pick out accessories. Assure them it won’t make the dress ‘old news’ if you have one more look, and if they refuse, put your foot down. Logic is definitely on your side on this one!

Post # 10
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s almost funny, if it didn’t cause me to have heart palpatations b/c all you are trying to do is determine what accessories to get with it!

Tell your mom and sis they’re being ridiculous and that this is to make the whole outfit and without being able to see the dress you’ll just pick something that doesn’t match.  Then your dress is ruined anyways…..

Post # 11
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i would goole images of “david’s bridal discontinued dresses” and look if you see it.. good luck!!

Post # 12
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can see what they are trying to do, but you need to see it. Maybe contact DB’s to see if they have your info. They will be able to give you a style number and google image search will bring it up. Or just march over there and take the dress.

Post # 13
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451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why dont you just go to your moms when she isnt there and put it on and dance around in it an put it back and keep it to yourself until after the wedding.

Post # 14
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I think it’s sweet that they’re trying to preserve the “new” feeling of the dress, but you have to be able to match accessories and whatnot with the dress. If you don’t know what it looks like, that won’t be helpful. 

Maybe pick a day that you can go see it just once again to see if a bolero would look ok…try to kill two birds with one stone and get your jewelry out of the way while you’re there.

Post # 16
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402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My turn to say I don’t want to be mean, But this is one of the most ridiculous wedding-related things I’ve ever heard! Forget that it’s fun to peak at your wedding dress, yeah, like several times a day if it’s at your place and that you only have a few hours to wear it and the lead-up to having it on is so very special — it’s also (almost) crucial to be able to look at it, how it sparkles in different light, the features, and so forth — to be able to accessorize, consider your hairstyle, yes, even make-up…. all of it… including bridesmaids’ style, adornment at the wedding itself.  Your dress is the center of attraction (well, as are you.. and your man) and you should be able to contemplate it and study and enjoy it as much as you please.  I’d step up and tell my family so if I were you and not waste a minute more without the joy of this once-in-a-lifetime event!

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