(Closed) Mom and step sisters bought me a new dress….:(

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

“but I have to pay them $450 that I don’t have”

Uhhhh, no you don’t. Tell them good luck returning it but that you’re not paying a dime for a dress that you don’t like and didn’t ask for.

What did your other dress look like?

Post # 4
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh! What a terrible situation to be placed in. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. i would find a way to sit them down (if they live in the same city) and tell them that while you appreciate their thoughtfulness, you don’t like the dress they selected and ask them to return it. Perhaps invite them out with you for another dress shopping excursion?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

UHHHHHHHH….. I don’t know you IRL, but that’s not your style AT ALL. Your other dress is seriously beautiful. Why in the world would they buy you a dress without asking? I mean everyone “helps” in different ways, and I can see the thought, but they should have asked you first! The dress is beautiful, but so not you.

Post # 6
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5667 posts
Bee Keeper

Your first dress is perfect for what I know about the theme of your wedding. Tell them to return the second dress. Really? What were they thinking?!

Post # 7
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152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

OMG I can’t believe this happend to you. I would not be happy! Whatever you decide make sure you are happy. If you don’t like the dress…don’t wear it! Its your day and you will not get it back. Good luck

Post # 8
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That is such BS, they go out without you and buy a dress and then expect you to pay for it? No.  Tell them “Thanks but no thanks” and let them try to return it.

Who does this?!?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Uhhh…I really like your original dress. I really do NOT like the DB one. You certainly do not owe anyone any money for a dress you don’t want. If you don’t feel comfortable stiffing them for it, at least exchange it for a reception dress. I would never mention it to them, but you will have to get your hands on the receipt.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow! Who does that!? While their hearts are in the right place, but still. Can the dress be returned? Sorry that happened to you.

Post # 11
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I looked at your old post and I LOVE the dress you have and I LOVE the other dress you were thinking about. They are NOTHING like the dress your family bought. Don’t pay for it! I know this is hard because I have a really hard time telling family no when it comes to the wedding but since you had nothing to do with their decision it is a no brainer. Let it be their problem. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I cannot consider  their gesture as thoughtful, in fact I think it’s quite the opposite….. and especially when they say that you have to pay them back for a dress that you weren’t even asked before  they decided to buy it…!!!I mean it’s absolutely illogical not to mention offending….Just explain to them that you love your dress and that the fact that was made in China does not lessen its beauty and more importantly the way it makes you feel when you wear it.Be confident with your taste and choice!Your dress is beautiful and I think that it really suits your theme!

Post # 13
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1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow, that is so out of line. I would tell them to return that dress asap. I love your other dress. You don’t have to feel bad about this at all, they should have never done anything without consulting you first.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Ohhh ok I thought so, I just didn’t know if you’d decided to switch to the antique lacey one. If your mom tore up the reciept that was her own dumb decision because now she’s out $450. Oops! 

Post # 16
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2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This is mind boggling.  They went without even telling you or consulting you, and on top of that, insulted your vision for your wedding day.  It’s really none of their business.  I don’t see how they can think you’re in any way responsible for paying for the dress.  I would honestly tell them to shove it.  It’s your day, not theirs, and you wear what you want. 

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