- 7 years ago
My father passed away when I was 12. My mom and stepfather were together for about 5 years, then got married when I was 19. My stepfather and I had a great relationship, until we had a huge fight, and things were different for a long time, about 6 years! (He was mad at me because my then boyfriend and I slept on the hide-a-bed in the basement of the house I lived in with my mom and him. We didn’t do anything that night, we just kissed each other, and went to sleep. He was so mad at me, but I said I was sorry and he wouldn’t let it go. He said his children would never do something like that. He was pretty much saying his kids were better than me. I have brothers and sisters, and he liked to think they were lower than his kids also.
Last fall, my boyfriend and I visited my mom and stepfather, we stayed at their house. We had a great visit. We went there for Christmas, another wonderful visit. My stepfather and I talked, laughed, joked, just like we used to. He told my mom that life was too short, and he was sorry for the drama, and the hard feelings. We didn’t apologize or talk about it, nothing needed to be said. We just got along, and had fun.
Last weekend, him and my mom were talking about wedding things. (My boyfriend has had a ring in his sock drawer since January, he said he’s waiting for the right time to ask me to marry him.) My stepfather told my mom he’d like to help us pay for our wedding, when the day comes. He said he wanted to pay for our venue, the rehearsal dinner, the flowers, cake, and any other little things.
Here’s my question…do I tell my boyfriend that my mom and stepfather want to pay for some of it, or let him propose first, then tell him? He’s worried about money, and paying for everything. I graduated college in May, and am having a hard time finding a job because I don’t have experience in my field. I do work part time 2-3 days a week. I have a feeling he may propose on July 20, we’re going to our first Twins game together. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to push him, but I want him to know of their intentions.