Post # 1
I’m wondering how you guys feel about someone having their mom as their matron of honor. My family is so close to me. My dad passed away a couple years ago, so it has just been me, my mom, and my brother since then. My brother is going to walk me down the aisle, and I would really like to have my mom as my matron of honor. She is very pretty (50yo), would look great in any dress, and so much fun. She has said that she wouldn’t want to plan my bachelorette party (LOL), but is on board otherwise.
Do you guys think that it’s okay, or would it look weird?
Post # 3
I think it would be weird and inappropriate. MOB is its own role that only your mother can fill. Anyone can be your Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
Honestly, I think it’s a little strange. I think it’s great you guys have a great relationship but I would just let her be mother of the bride, that is a pretty important title also that NO ONE else can fill!! I would just let her enjoy being that 🙂
Post # 6
My mother went to a wedding where the mom was the Maid/Matron of Honor and she thought it was nice but odd. She then jokingly (I hope jokingly) asked who my Maid/Matron of Honor will be. I explained to her that the Maid/Matron of Honor is responsible for fixing the train and holding the bouquet. I told her that my mother will be walking down the aisle in fron of everyone and sitting at her place of honor, but not bending over in front of everyone to make sure my train looks perfect. My mother will also be crying, which she doesn’t need to do standing in front of everyone at my side. Like the previous posters, I think that MOB is a much higher honor than Maid/Matron of Honor and the job of MOB can’t go to just anyone.
Post # 7
@sleepyhead22: I don’t think it’s weird at all because I considered the idea as well. I think its lovely when the bride chooses her mom to be Maid/Matron of Honor rather than any friend. To me, it gives me the impression that there is a strong bond between mother and daughter. I would say go for it but since it’s your mom, pick a dress that is appropriate for her age and you can even allow her to wear a different shade of your primary color or let her wear an alternate color that you are using. I hate the idea of the mom/moh wearing the same color as the BMs….personally, I would have had my mom wear another color from our wedding.
I didn’t pick my mom as my Maid/Matron of Honor because I wanted my mom to walk me down the aisle along with my dad.
Post # 8
i definitely think you guys have good points. I was thinking that my mom could walk me down on my left side with my brother on my right if she was my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I suppose she also could do that if she was not my Maid/Matron of Honor.
my problem is that I really don’t have another friend who I trust as much as her. I think there would be drama with my other friends being my Maid/Matron of Honor, so if I didn’t have her I probably wouldn’t have one at all. I guess I just need to weigh the pros and cons for a while. I know that it would look weird, but I just really can’t even consider anyone else having that role in my wedding.
Post # 9
why not just NOT have a Maid/Matron of Honor and have your mother do Maid/Matron of Honor duties w/o the title. In Jewish weddings both sets of parents stand up with the bride and the groom so it would be totally acceptable to have her stand up there with you. Have you considered having her walk you down the isle with your brother?
Post # 10
It isn’t weird at all, and I think she would be honored to fill that role for you. Many grooms have their Dads as their Best Man, so why should it be any different?
Post # 11
@amandasf: yeah, i posted about having my mom walk me down too right before you posted! i think your idea to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor but have her fill those roles might be just the right balance. thanks!
@ItWasntMe: yess, that’s kind of what i was thinking.
Post # 12
@sleepyhead22: How many BMs are you planning to have? If you having 2-3 (including your MOH) than your mom can be your moh and still walk you with your brother. Remember, it’s your wedding and if you want to make it as intimate as you want to then go for it.
Also, I want to share with you that my Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend from high school but she has no flipping clue about wedding and we have different tastes. I haven’t given her any Maid/Matron of Honor duties although she has offered to take some responsibility. My mom has helped Fiance and I a lot and Fiance is very helpful in the entire wedding process.