- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Ok, I have only just recently found myself addicted to this site, but have already read so many helpful posts, so thought i would ask the other bees for some advice.
My mother is an episcopal priest, and we are in the process of trying to figure out her place in the service. We are having a traditional service, with communion. The question is, do you think it would be a good idea to have my mom run the service? My initial feeling is that it would be the most wonderful thing in the world to have my mom, the woman who raised me and i love so very much, perform the wedding service to the man i will spend my life with. I just can’t imagine anything more special than that. Kind of like she is the conduit to my married life, which i feel is fitting. The problem is that i am super emotional, and know that the odds of me totally breaking down in tears is much higher when it’s my mom up there instead of some other priest. Also, i don’t want to take away from her “mother of the bride” status. However, i do feel like i want her to have an elevated status, because she is so special to me. Also, my parents are divorced, and it doesnt seem fair that my dad gets to walk me down the aisle and my mom gets no recognition as the one who was my primary parent.
Another option is for her to “assist” the other priest, and help with communion and prayers, and do the homily. (I think she was offended by this suggestion, as it puts her in the assistant role. I think she felt it was demeaning or something.)
Another option is for her to primarily run the service, but with assistance from Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law (they are long-standing members of the church). They could read prayers, do the homily, etc, to take some of the burden off my mom.
I spoke with my mom about it and told her that i want her to be happy, so i would be okay with whatever she wanted, but she just turned it back on me and said it was my wedding, so she’d do whatever I wanted! Argh!
So, bees, please give me your wonderful words of wisdom, i am in need of some advice!