Post # 1
I’m soooo frustrated, I need a little advice. I had been looking for a wedding dress for a few months and having lots of difficulty. My friends would describe me as trendy and classic. I wanted something with a little flair. My mom had been a huge problem. She had a small wedding and most of my family (from a small town) is used to smaller ish weddings (not “fancy”). The problem I have is that any ideas I have about the wedding my mom seems to think are crazy and frivilous.
My mom and I went shopping for a dress and found this lady who sells designer dresses at a discount (they were samples). I found a dress that I liked but was very different than what I was looking at. Originally I was looking for something mermaid or dropped waist with ruffles (really love those ruffles!) They weren’t feeling very bridal to me, but I loved them anyway. When I came across this dress
it felt very bridal to me and I loved the train and beading. It was only 250 dollars and my mom loved it (which totally talked me into getting it). Problem is that I’m still thinking about those mermaid ruffly dresses.
My solution was wear the original dress to the ceremony (feels bridal, beautiful train, fiance will love it) and get a second reception dress (easier to move around in and i get my fun ruffles). No one I know have ever seen this done before (bride wearing two dresses) and they are all giving me a hard time about it, including my mom who screamed at me!
Anyone have any advice? Has anyone run into a similar situation?
Post # 3
There are dozens of posts here about brides doing just that. Search reception dress.
Post # 4
yeah it actually a common thing…look at the other posts
Post # 5
That’s a great compromise, to have a ceremony dress and a reception dress…you do what you feel is best. If your mom is helping funding the wedding I think personally she should be able to give her two cents, and maybe you can take her opinion into consideration but don’t compromise what you want for your wedding. Like I said though, have two different dresses is a great idea! 🙂 Make sure you budget in both though! 🙂
Post # 6
I have two dresses and I am in love with my receptiond dress. It was the one I found first. Maybe you could print up some of the posts about it and show trem to her. Maybe she will be better about it once she sees how common it it. I could not imagine wearing my ceremony dress all night as it is heavy and would be really cumbersome trying to dance in it at a June wedding.
Post # 7
thanks for the advice. My ceremony dress was only 250 and my mom had budgeted 1000. problem is she’s not liking that i want to get it so she said she wouldn’t give me money. But thats fine, i’d just buy it myself. And i’m scouring the classifieds on here to look for a dress. I just think i would be happiest getting to wear both kinds of dresses. I’d probably try to sell the reception dress again anyways. I’m realizing you can recoup alot of money by selling your stuff again on here!
Post # 8
I think Meliss is selling 3 of her gorgeous gowns. Also I saw that Cherimoya got an Alure L301 or 8766 through Pearls Place that sounded like something you might really like. Good luck. Keep us posted 🙂
Post # 9
I found a couple of gowns on DB site this am. SAS1218 on sale for $199.00, and 859281D for $215.00 🙂
Post # 10
I was having the same problem with my future mother in law. I have already bought and sold one dress, then bought another. My first dress was a big ballgown and now I have a short vintage looking dress with an old hollywood feel to it, my FI mom hates it and said that it doesn’t look bridal enough. One Sunday at dinner I had had enough of her opinions about my dress and my wedding, so I very politly informed her that 25 years ago she got to have her wedding the way she wanted, and now I would get to have my wedding the way I want it.
I must have got my point across because there has been no snarkiness from her since!
I sold my original ballgown on http://www.preownedweddingdress.com they have lots of great dresses to look at. Another good site is http://www.oncewed.com and also http://www.bravobride.com