(Closed) Mom Bought Engagement Ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If someone other then your FI bought your e-ring what would you do?
    Be mad : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Be sad : (22 votes)
    10 %
    It would be more special : (19 votes)
    9 %
    It would make it less special : (39 votes)
    19 %
    I would demand he pay it back : (14 votes)
    7 %
    I would demand a ring he paid for : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I would end the engagement : (1 votes)
    0 %
    We would pay it forward : (56 votes)
    27 %
    It wouldn't bother me : (44 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My reaction would be that’s an incredible story and I think it is super sweet!  My Fiance didn’t really “buy” my ring either.  My ring belonged to my grandmother and he simply paid for the repairs.  I don’t think it makes it any less special that he didn’t go out and traditionally “purchase” the ring, the point is he proposed.  The ring is just a symbol it doesn’t signify the love and special relationship you have together. 

    Post # 4
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I really like the idea of paying it forward. That is a sweet story!

    Post # 5
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t see what the big deal is.  Lots of people inherit rings.  Is that any different?  Someone else purchased those.  Lots of people keep money in the family, their parents buy them homes, etc.  I think it is very nice of your mum, she sounds like a great lady.

    Post # 6
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    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    This is a really sweet story.  In this case, I would not be mad or upset and like you said, it make the ring that much more special.

    Post # 7
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    That’s a lovely story. I could see you passing the ring down to your daughter someday…

    Post # 8
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    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m with the others, this is really sweet!  Accept the lovely gift as a great start to your new life together, and pay it forward in the future.  

    Post # 10
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    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My grandmother bought my brother his engagment ring for his wife. She didnt seem to care. And i think the paying it forward is a great idea! It’s a sweet story, I dont know why you think your Fiance would be embarassed by this.

    Post # 11
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    3770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    That’s actually a really amazing story!  I voted pay it forward.  What a generous gift with a meaningful reason behind it!

    Post # 12
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    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ok, I’m coming out of hiding. I am the original poster. I’m not ashamed, I have never been, but I wanted to protect my Fiance incase a lot of flak came from you guys. Now that you bees are being understanding I’m not worried about it.

    @s.renea9:  I don’t really know that my Fiance would be embarassed. He does want to keep it a secret from his family. He’s ok with it now that he knows I’m more then ok with it. But I know at first he had a lot of guilt about not being able to buy it himself (he doesn’t like to accept gifts).

    Here is a picture of the ring if anyone is curious.

    Post # 13
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    5199 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I would definitely pay it forward. What a lovely story, a wonderful gesture by your mother, and a wonderful history behind HER paying it forward.

    ETA: To me, unless the ring was stolen or something, I really do not see why it matters how much was paid, who paid for it, where it came from, and so on. Women often pay for their rings (or much of their rings themselves), people inherit rings, or find them at pawnshops or second hand, and to me what does it matter as long as it means something important to them and they are happy with it? The ring is just there to symbolize the promise or honour the commitment, in my opinion. It is not meant to prove how much one could spend, or be a huge “financial sacrifice”. To me spending more than someone else may have does not automatically translate to a stronger commitment.

    Post # 14
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    339 posts
    Helper bee

    I think in this situation it is wonderful and I love that your Mom cares enough about you and your fiance to pay for your ring.  I just about cried reading your story!  

     

    I can see how in maybe another situation it wouldn’t be ok though.

     

    Edit:  A good man wants to take care of his girlfriend/fiance/wife and I’m sure it has been hard for him to be injured and not be able to provide everything to you. I hope that he can get all the care he needs and get better!  Good luck to you both!

    Post # 15
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    365 posts
    Helper bee

    That’s crazy awesome! How sweet that your mom’s friend didn’t collect on the loan, and that now your mom is deciding not to as well. How amazingly generous.

    I’d say, pay it forward. For now, especially as long as your fiance is still injured and it’s not like there’ll be much money coming in either way, maybe just keep it in mind… and when a good friend or family member needs a very generous amount of help somewhere down the road, even if it’s years from now, just remember this and look at as an opportunity. 🙂

    That’s really lovely.

    Post # 16
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It makes it special and you can pay it forward!  What a lovely story and what a wonderful mom you have!!!!  I’m so glad your mom is better, wow!

    I absolutely love that you will forever have such wonderful memories attached to your ring Laughing

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