(Closed) Mom cancelled my first dress hunt, don't know what to do

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: What do I do?
    Wait until August : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Go with fmil and go again in August : (14 votes)
    67 %
    Don't tell mom and just order the dress online and go again after (for her sake) : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That sounds frustrating, mostly because its not like she just cancelled but she’s being a bit weird about it too and you don’t know why. I think maybe you should take it upon yourself to make an appointment, and tell her “this is when I’m going and i don’t plan to change it”. And she should hopefully manage to make it. If she doesn’t then at least you’ve forewarned her, and since SHE didn’t make the appt she may feel less like she can cancel (seems easier when you are in charge). Just tell her where to be and when.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Agreed with PP. Make the appointment and stick to it, whether she cancels on your or not. Enjoy the time with your Mother-In-Law. Could be a special bonding time with you two.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    That’s a tough one.   I would probably tell her because I wouldn’t want her to get upset and think I’m trying to hide it from her/don’t want to go dress shopping with her.  On the other hand, she might be sad you’re going for the first time without her.  It depends on how you think she would react.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Your mom shouldn’t be in control of your bridal appointments. If you go without bring her back to try the dresses if you like. To be honest with you depending on your mom sense of style it can be a bit annoying shopping together and cause a lot of tension. I been wedding dress shoppiing with my mom twice, and she probably not going to come back with me until I pick my dress. I wouldn’t lie about it, or let her be so controling.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Maybe your mom doesn’t realize that dresses have to be ordered so far ahead? I would explain that to her and tell her that unfortunately due to these time constraints you will have to go ahead and have the appointment on the 7th.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2783 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    This is tough…because I know it would have KILLED my mom not to be there, especially if I went with Future Mother-In-Law. Then again she’s being cagey about it.

    I definitely would not go without telling her.

    Can you go one evening during the week? I notice all the days you said are weekends. You might also want to call the place you are having your dress made and talk to them….they might not need as long as you think?

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