Post # 1
So, I’m confused. I was told that my Dad didn’t want to wear a tux. So, 6 months ago, we decided that all of the men in the family would wear suits unless they were ushers. My fiance is wearing a tux and so are the groomsman and ushers, but in an effort to keep it more casual, the dads weren’t going to wear suits. For the record, I wanted all of the guys to wear suits, but they thought it was more complicated.
Apparently, my mom decided that it wasn’t good enough for the Dads to wear suits when my Fiance was in a tux. She said it would be tacky and it was horrible for me to let them look more casual at the wedding. She just made my dad BUY a tux and had my grandpa fitted for a rental….
So, my questions:
Does any of this sound odd? Or is it just me? Also, what do I tell my future Father-In-Law who just bought a new suit to wear to the wedding? Does he now have to rent a tux? I hate being put in these positions!
Thanks for any help!
Post # 3
I was going to have the dad’s in a suit, but then we got convinced to put the dads in suits by Mens Warehouse. So I thought, ok, my dad in a tux, fine, hes walking me down the isle, it’ll be fine if hes in a tux and Father-In-Law isn’t. But then, if Father-In-Law rented a tux, my husbands would be free, so we figure, might as well, even if we paid for it for him, its still a free tux. But, other than that, I think it’s fine if your dad is in one, but Future Father-In-Law isnt. I would let him know that your mom changed her mind and got your dad a tux in case he wants to be in one too now, but let him know its up to him. It never crossed my mind to put the grandfathers in tux’s too though!
Post # 4
I know! I think I’m just thrown because we already had about 10 conversations and everyone was decided. Now I feel bad that my Future Father-In-Law bought a suit when he might have rather rented a tux and fit in with the rest of the guys…but I don’t know why my mom thought my grandpa needed to be in a tux too? I just don’t care, but I would rather people not throw money down the drain when they don’t have to you know?
Post # 5
Can tell your mom most people dont bother putting grandfathers in tuxs too and that she doesnt need to do that. Maybe she thinks its “normal” for all the men in the family to be in a tux and wants to not be looked down on for being tacky as you said.