- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
So, my mom doesn’t seem very excited for my wedding. She doesn’t really like to get excited or emotional about things, but sometimes it comes off as cold and its hard to know if she is even excited at all.
I wrote a post about my issues with her with out DW. Well, we’ve told her that we are having a DW. That’s that. I wasn’t sure if before she didn’t take it seriously, but now she should… we put a $500 deposit on the planner, and a $1000 deposit on the photographer. Unless something really tragic happens – we aren’t turning back.
She said that she and my dad will help pay for things (but we didn’t plan on asking them to). Great! That’s awesome.
Tonight FI and I were talking to her and she says (in her sarcastic/snooty/cold voice that she uses sometimes), “So. How many people DO you think you’re going to have at the wedding?”
“Well, we’re invited 70, so we’re going to estimate 60, but I think about 45 will come.”
And she just says, “Oh. Hm.”
And I pause and say, “…….why? How many people do you think we’ll get?”
Wtf? Our bridal party (who have already said they WILL be there) is more than 5 people (and that isn’t including the +1 that we’re letting every single guest have).
Later FI and I were talking and I said, “yeah, I think my mom is kidding herself if she doesn’t think we’re going to have at least 30 people.” And he said, “yeah… your mom doesn’t seem very excited for our wedding. Your dad does, but she doesn’t. I hope that changes though.”
I said, “well, it probably won’t. I’ve been giving up hope that she’ll get excited.”
Poor FI said, “I just don’t want someone at our wedding who is going to be negative and not excited about things. It’ll just bring everything down.”
Everyone else is excited, why can’t she be? Of course, everyone else knows more about the wedding than she does and I LIVE with her, for god’s sake! Just other people are more excited, and since the conversation just dies every time I bring up our wedding, I don’t feel comfortable talking to my mom about it.
She talks to my brother and FSIL about their wedding and makes conversation and even seems excited. I told FI “if my mom acted the same about brother and FSIL’s wedding, FSIL would be pretty upset with her.” FI said, “yeah, she would.”
And she would. But then again my mom is good at being super fake and tries to seem like she gives a crap because she and FSIL had issues years ago (FSIL was going through a hard time and was a bit difficult…)
Ugh. I think I’m just going to have to tell my mom “seriously, you need an attitude adjustment!” FI and I already don’t have his parents to go to… I would like the support of my own at the very least!
Thanks for letting me vent!