(Closed) Mom hates my invitations…

posted 9 years ago in DIY
  • poll: Has your mother or father influenced your wedding plans?
    Yes, I've changed some of my visions because of their advice : (13 votes)
    20 %
    No, I've stuck to my guns : (33 votes)
    51 %
    I have compromised : (19 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    618 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Don’t be discouraged – your invitations are lovely!!  And even more special that you did them yourself.  My mom has practically hated every single thing I’ve showed her so far – we just have really different taste.  Yes, it hurts my feelings, but it’s my choice and not hers.  I guess I should learn to just stop asking her opinion. 

    You should be REALLY proud of yourself for trying to DIY your invitations – it makes them more personal and saves money.  I think they’ll great.

    Post # 4
    Member
    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, keep in mind that parents are from a different generation and therefore, their taste is typically way different. I think they’re gorgeous. My parents haven’t necessarily loved everything I do, but I"m paying for it myself and by the tme i work something togheter, I’m not redoing it. They keep telling me a lot of the little things I"m doing are unnecessary but I’m one of those people who believes it’s the little things that make the difference

    Post # 5
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    be glad that it’s only your invitations. my mom hated my wedding dress. it was plain and simple just like i wanted it because that’s the kind of person i am. my mom, on the other hand, loves beads, sequins, and other sparkly things. she disliked my dress so much that she threatened to not be present at the wedding. i almost broke out in tears. but i stuck with what i wanted. by the time my final fitting came around, she finally said… ‘it’s not that bad,’ so it turned out well for me in the end. i think your mom just wants the best for you and like my mom, is probably just mixing up what she wants for what you want. so i say, stick to your guns. it’s your wedding, do what you want.

    Post # 6
    Member
    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think they are lovely personally.  I agree on the generation thing. Also has she seen them in person to see how they look? That makes a world of difference with my mom.

    Post # 7
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    425 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

     I think they are very nice!  If YOU really like them… I would stick with it!

    If you are not sure if you like them or really take to heart what you mom said then: ….. If it were me and My Mom had said that, I would just say "If you want to pick up the tab for professional one’s then we can pick them out together, but I get the final say."

     

     

    Post # 8
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    1573 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I don’t think anyone will ever satisfy what the parents want

     

    My mom also criticized my invitations: how come there’s no officiant how come there are no sponsors (we’re Filipino), my sis said how come it’s not cut right

     

    oh well, I made it, I like them, I think that’s all that matters; I did it myself and saved $350

     

    Same with my dress I liked my dress I cried because it was what I wanted; my mom liked the other more expensive one; oh well, I loved it, it was in my price range it’s all that matters

     

    same with my guest list she said I should invite family first over friends; I didn’t know people would keep adding how would I know

     

    aw well, you will never agree with everything I still love my mom

    Post # 10
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    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Aww, I think your invitations look great!  Did your mom mention what specifically she disliked about them?  While I was working on our invitations, I showed my fiance a mock-up, and he said they looked "weird."  When I asked him what he meant, he pointed out two small things that could easily be changed.  To make him happy I altered the invitations, and he "loved" the next version.  If you’re just tired of dealing with it, then getting professional invitations made may be the way to go….or, you could try working with your mom to come up with something you both like.  Good luck!!!

    Post # 11
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think your invitations are very pretty!  It’s your wedding; you should have things that you like.  It doesn’t matter what other people think.

    Post # 12
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    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think they are wonderful and the fact that you created them yourself makes it even more special. What really matters is if you and your Fiance like them.

    All our parents are going to give their two cents but in the end it is you that has to live with the decision. I am lucky that my parents haven’t disliked anything or made negative comments even though I ask their opinions because I need the constructive criticism. The only thing that I changed was my ride. I wanted to roll in my dad’s F150 but he offered the limo… How can I refuse that one?!

    Post # 13
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    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think they are lovely.  Maybe your Mom couldn’t make the jump from white-and-grey-on-the-computer to envisioning how they would look in real life.  If you and your fiance like them, that’s what really matters.  I’d be sure to tell your Mom how much she hurt your feelings. 

    Post # 15
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think they are nice too.  I bet your mom is either feeling the font isn’t formal and swirly enough, or she wants the wording to be more formal (Mr. and Mrs. Kixparents request the honor of your presence…)  Of course if they aren’t paying for the wedding, then they don’t have a right to it.

    Post # 16
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    OK, I think your mom is nuts.  Those are lovely!  They’re pretty, simple and classy — what is her issue with them?  Does she want more color?  Less decoration?  Different wording?

    I think you should stick to your guns on this one.  They’re great — and if you accept your mom’s money she may insist on having input into the design process.  Since it sounds like you have very different aesthetics I say go DIY and have it your way!

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