(Closed) Mom hates my strapless dress

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
5226 posts
Bee Keeper

MrsWatkinstobe:  Nope, you look awesome. Shame on your Mom for being so unsupportive. That dress is gorgeous, and you look gorgeous in it. 

On a side not though, if you did want a bolero for the ceremony, I think if you found one in the same fabric as the ress, it wouldn’t take away from it at all. You for sure don’t need one though! 

Post # 3
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

“I fell in love with the dress and so did my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I paid for it myself.  This should be all that matters, right?”

Yes, this is completely all that matters.  You should absolutely feel proud of your weight loss, and that dress looks lovely on you.  It really is a gorgeous dress!  If you feel beautiful and confident in it then that’s what will show on your wedding day.  Don’t fixate on what your mother says- that kind of negativity has no place at a wedding.

Post # 4
2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Look at that expression! You feel beautiful and confident and it shows. It will show on the day too. 

It seems that your mother is projecting some of her own issues onto you and I would bet she would be critical no matter what you chose – even if it were an exact replica of her dress.

I heard an expression on here once: you can’t go to a broken well and expect to get water from it. In other words – as hard as it is, you can’t rely on her for your happiness, particularly when she’s in no state to provide it to you.  

Post # 5
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014



Haters gonna hate.


You glow in that dress and your fiance is going to be blown away!  That’s all that matters.

Post # 6
46641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only change you need to make is to stop letting your Mom push your buttons. I know it’s hard because our Mothers have had so much power over us siince we were babies, but there comes a time when we need to take back that power.

Post # 7
6005 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

MrsWatkinstobe:  You look beeeeautiful and I LOVE the dress!! I thought my mom had no filter, but your mom! Grrrr. I don’t know what it is about them, especially the older they get. Sorry you had to deal with her rude comments your whole life. Not cool. Probably you know by now you won’t ever get the support you should from her so listen to your Maid/Matron of Honor and US. Hehe! But seriously, it’s beautiful and try not to let her get ya down.

Post # 8
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

“I fell in love with the dress and so did my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I paid for it myself.  This should be all that matters, right?”<br /><br />

Spot on. You love your dress, you look gorgeous in it ultimately you paid for it. This really IS all that matters. Don’t let your mother drag you down with her negativity.

Post # 9
7518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your mother isn’t the one wearing the dress- so it really doesn’t matter how she feels about it.  You love it- so you rock it girl!

Post # 10
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

As long as you like it that’s all that matters especially since you’re paying for it.

Post # 11
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Concentrate on how you feel, and what you want out of your weight loss journey. Noone should make you feel anything less than amazing on your wedding day! There’s so much pressure to be a particular way, but as long as you are healthy and happy, that’s what matters! Whatever you do, don’t be put off your weight loss by what she said – it’s been proven that losing 2-3lbs a week steadily is much easier to keep off than losing loads quickly, so stick at it 🙂


Post # 12
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014


Post # 13
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you look beautiful and congratulations on your weight loss. Keep up the good work! 🙂

Post # 14
2258 posts
Buzzing bee

You look gorgeous, and your smile says it all. That is your dress, girl, and you look absolutely amazing in it! It sounds like your mom has issues with herself and that manifests in the way she talks to you. You’ve got to rise above that and not let it drag you down. You look beautiful and I can tell by your smile that you feel beautiful in that dress. You are going to rock it on your wedding day!

Post # 15
2292 posts
Buzzing bee

You’re happy, and that’s what matters.

When it comes to your mom’s behavior, she’s acting the way she usually does. It’s business as usual. Accept that she’s consistently negative and take everything she says with a big, heaping grain of salt. 

You like that dress, you’re wearing it how you want, and that’s final. That’s how it is. She can’t change that. 

Oh, and it’s great that you’re losing weight. She may not acknowledge that, but that doesn’t change anything. The good things you do are good no matter what she does or does not say.

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