Mom having heart surgery

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 2
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My dad had a bypass in 2014. He had an ablation a few years before that.

He has a genetic issue with his heart (he’s slim, never smoked and doesn’t drink so not lifestyle induced) both his parents had bypasses and his siblings are both having early tests for the same heart issues. 

Both procedures were fine. The ablation worked well and he recovered very quickly. The bypass was done as a preventative and so he was back on his feet really quickly after. He is also lucky that he lives near one of the UKs best hospitals for heart conditions.

im sure your mum will be fine and it will be worth it in the long run. 

Post # 3
573 posts
Busy bee

I don’t have any experience with this type of surgery but as someone who went thru health issues with her mom I can tell you that mom’s are a lot tougher than we give them credit for!

Focus on the good that this surgery will do for her and, if you follow a religion and have faith, pray. I know praying really, really helped me when my mom was going thru a lot medically and I wasn’t even sure if I believed in anything at the time! I just started praying one day and I kept praying. It made me feel a lot better. 

I know that I will be praying for you and your mom. Make sure that you keep us in the loop, bee and let us know how her surgery goes! I’m sure that everything will be just fine. 

Post # 4
1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

My uncle had it twice. One time it worked briefly then reverted back. The other time it worked perfectly. 

It was fairly safe and straightforward. He is glad he had it done. 

Post # 5
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My husband had ablation last year at age 40 for uncontrollable a fib.  He didn’t even recognize he was in a fib. They assume he had had it off and on for a while and was asymptomatic.  The stress of his mom passing from terminal cancer is what they think kicked off the last bad episode where he was finally diagnosed when he went to urgent care for what he thought was a cold.  He was in bad shape with terrible heart function by the time they diagnosed him.  After a few cardioversions and rounds of meds and a 10 day hospital stay, they couldn’t keep him in rhythm so ablation was his only option. 

I was scared shitless too and a mess as we were only married for barely 2 years at that point.  Heck I was a mess for the smaller procedures like cardioversion. Not sure if they told you but ablation is a LONG procedure. My husband’s took 5-6 hours as it takes time to map the heart and the electrical impulses and find all the spots causing the a fib.  It was amazing to see the EKG that ran during the procedure when the doctor came out to talk to me at the end as it slowly normalized as they treated all the misfiring spots.  The best advice I can give you is have a support system in the waiting room with you.  Everytime I almost lost it bc the wait was so long to hear anything – my mom, my sister in law, and my father in law were there with me to calm me down or take a walk with me or get a snack.   Waiting was the worst part. 

Also, the whole having to lay flat for hours afterward sucked for my husband bc you can’t move bc of the groin incisions. He was starving by that point having not eaten all day.  We finally got clearance for him to be able to have his head lifted and I spoon fed him pudding, applesauce and ripped up pieces of turkey from a sandwich. 

It’s been over a year now since his ablation and he has had excellent results , his heart has rehabbed, and *crosses fingers* he has not had a reoccurance of a fib.  He’s still on some cardiac drugs pending his next few check ups but nothing like he was before. 

They did say he could have to have a touch up in the future if there’s a break thru impulse and there is always a chance that the first time doesn’t work.  They longer you go without an afib episode post surgery, the greater the chance of success of the procedure. 

Feel free to PM me if you want 🙂  Good luck to your mom!

Post # 7
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

karkar1234 :  No experience, but my mom had a severe heart attack back in May. She had to have a heart cath and 3 stents. And was diagnosed with a fib after her heart attack. I just wanted to let you know I understand how you are feeling. It’s scary when it’s your parents and it’s their heart. You feel pretty helpless  Hugs to you and prayers that your mom’s procedure is easy peasy! 

Post # 10
99 posts
Worker bee

An abalation, depending on if she’s going to hybrid OR or the EP Lav really shouldn’t require her to have her chest opened unless she is getting some type of maze procedure. We insert large plastic “IVs” through the groin area and feed catheters up through it to help map her heart. Since she’s in A-Fib, we’ll be going left-sided to her left atrium via a small transeptal puncture to insolate her pulmonary veins as this is the main area A-Fib originates from. One of the catheters will “burn” or “freeze” the pulmonary veins and that’s it! There are complications associated with the procedure but it is relatively safe in terms of risk and many Electrophysiologists are very well versed with this type of procedure. 🙂 


Post # 11
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

My dad had a quadruple bypass in his mid-40s. His chest was literally butterflied open. I was 14 at the time and terrified. I distinctly remember this moment in the waiting room, about halfway through his surgery, where a complete sense of calm just washed over me and I knew he was going to be fine.  

Try to think about how much this is going to help her! Surgery is always scary, but it’s almost always worth it. Good luck!

Post # 12
115 posts
Blushing bee

My father had the procedure a year ago with no issues.  He felt better almost immediately.  He’s had 3 heart attacks and I have also had a heart attack.  My mother had open heart surgery a year ago and is doing well now.  Try not to stress or worry.  There is so much that’s done now routinely.  Your mom will be ok


Post # 14
878 posts
Busy bee

I don’t have any familiarity with the procedure but I wanted to say best wishes to you and your mom. I’m sure it’s a scary time for you and I hope all the best. 

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