- 6 years ago
I would definately talk to him but try not to be too mad. I think it’s most likely that he really didn’t undestand how important this was for you or that you would even want him there. My fiance did something similar when my mom was in hospice and I freaked out at first, but then realized he wasn’t being mean or even uncaring, he just didn’t understand. Hope things work out with your hubby and I hope your mom’s okay!
I’m so sorry about your mom; that’s a big scare!
That said, I don’t think your Darling Husband is being unreasonable. Your mom is going to be ok, she’s already recovering, so I can understand his not wanting to leave work early when he has things he needs to do.
A burst appendix can be very serious, but it is very common and not as big of a deal as it use to be. It does sound like your mom is doing fine. In this situation I wouldn’t be upset if my husband couldn’t leave work early. He can still swing by and see her after he gets done. If she weren’t doing well that would be a different story.
Thanks for the input. I’m glad to hear that it sounds like the burst appendix isn’t as big of a deal as I was thinking. That’s a relief.
I think your husband is just being practical, typical of many men. I think a burst appendix can be very bad, but the fact that they caught it and she is in the hospital being treated is very good. None of this means that it isn’t normal for you to be scared and worried, and ideally your Fiance would recognize this and take off work….but in reality he sees that your mom will probably be ok, and that he will see you soon and support you then. I wouldn’t ream him out – if anything when you see him, let him give you a big hug and comfort you!
I completely understand why you left work. Anytime a family member is admitted into the hospital it is very scary. My mom was in the hospital for 10 months and the best thing my family could do to help her get through her illness was visit her every day. I think you did the right thing by leaving work. As for your husband I wouldnt get too upset with him, it was probably one of those things he said before thinking. Sometimes guys just don’t know what to say when it comes to things like this. I would just let him know that he upset you and accept his apologies.
I wish your mother an easy recovery from this. Hang in there!
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