Post # 1
Recently my grandmother passed away and my mom inherited some money. My fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves.
Since my mom has inherited some money she told me she was giving me money for a wedding gift, and that she would rather give it to me now rather than later.
I am very grateful she is giving me any money, however she told me she wants to spend it on my self and not the wedding. This is really irritating me because I want to spend it on my wedding, and would rather get some things paid off for the wedding. She did the same thing on my birthday, gave me money as a gift but said use it on myself not on the wedding. This is really annoying me. I know whe probably wants me to do something for myself, but honestly at this point I would rather use the money for wedding expenses. Any one else going through or have gone through a similar situation?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Can you come to an agreement that you will use a small portion for things for the wedding that are you-focused, like the dress, jewely, shoes, pampering, etc. but that the rest will be for non-wedding related things (which then free up more of your money for the wedding after all)?
Post # 4
I think @mrsSonthebeach: had some great suggestions! Talk to your mom and be open about what you really need the money for, find some ways to not make it all wedding related, and be grateful for her very generous gift! 🙂
Post # 5
I think she may actually have a point.
I just sat here and thought about what I’ve spent money on in the last six months…and it’s been the wedding. I did get my nails done — but other than that I haven’t bought new clothes, gotten my hair done, bought a movie, a book, etc. Any extra funds that have come through has gone towards the wedding or in the new house savings account. I can’t say the same for my Fiance who just bought three new video games in the last month and a couple pairs of jeans.
I would be grateful for some unexpected funds that weren’t appropriated for the wedding, savings account, or neccessities to come through so I could buy something for me. Granted, wedding related purchases make me smile, but so would a new pair of jeans or shoes that weren’t for the wedding.
Post # 6
Spend the money she gave you paying bills and expenses so that you can use your income on the wedding? It’s really rude to dictate what someone does with money anyways. If she cares that much she should have given you something she wanted to you to have.
Post # 7
I get where you’re coming from, but I also get where you mom is coming from. Yes, you are being responsible by wanting to use that money towards things you’ve already purchased. But your mom wants you to not forget to spoil yourself sometimes, because YOU DESERVE IT.
Post # 8
Thank you all! All good points.
@ kimberlyr22 It’s been the same way for me. Everything has been all about the wedding.