Post # 1
I just went to have the first fitting for my dress that my mom is designing and making. I am pretty upset. I really don’t like much about it at all and I don’t think it looks nice on me.
The color of the fabric looks different to me than when we picked it out. It looks a lot more yellow. Also, the lines of the corset I bought show through so now I have to find new undergarments. I really didn’t want to spend the time and money on that.
Lastly, it’s just not flattering. The light color is not slimming and I just feel like it looks too plain. Honestly, I hate it.
At this point, the only thing I can do is see if I can find some jewelry that overpowers the dress. At least it fits well, I guess. There isn’t much I was particular about with this wedding but this was one of them. I just wanted to look and feel beautiful. I can’t think of much that could make me change my mind about this dress, but I’m going to look around and see if I can figure out some embellishments my mom can add.
Post # 3
@solidarity: Do you have a picture?
Post # 4
@solidarity: Do you have pics? It is hard to see what you mean without them. Did you show her exact photos? The fabric may have looked different in the store…taking a swatch outside would have showed its true color.
Post # 5
No, I don’t have pics. It wasn’t very well lit in her studio, so I may be wrong about the color. I was still a little startled bu how bad and unflattering the lighter color looks on. White really does make you look heavier! I am a size 16 and 5’9″ and well proportioned, so I believed the hype when people said that white can be flattering. Now I think I was probably right all along.
I’m going to spend some time looking around the internet for similar dresses and see if there’s something that can be done. I told my Fiance when I got home and he suggested finding another dress. I won’t do that, though. It will hurt my mom’s feelings. Not to mention my wedding is July 16th. I’m not sure where I’d find another dress at this point.
Post # 6
Wedding is July 26th, I mean.
Post # 7
How about adding a beaded or otherwise embellished sash – it’ll make the dress less plain, and by defining the waist it might make it more flattering.
Post # 8
Is she a professional seamstress?
Can she sew in some overlays of tulle or chiffon to cover up the fabric you chose, and add more to it?
What kind of fabric did she use?
Post # 9
I think you should just be honest with her. It doesn’t benefit anyone for you to be unhappy about it. Just be extremely thankful for what she’s done, but be honest with her. Buy something off the rack that you love.
Post # 10
@solidarity: tell your mom that you love her and tell her to come with you to buy a dress.
Post # 11
Maybe you can find a way of changing the design somewhat so that you don’t completely abandon the dress (and insult your mum) while moving towards something you like better?
Then you could make it out like you’re just indecisive and have changed your mind about what you want, rather than your mum has done a bad job.
Though I noticed you didn’t say that much about the shape or construction of the dress being wrong, and it’s more the colour, the corset issue, and the plainness? If that is the case, probably all those things are fixable in some way. Even if there are some style issues, they could still be solveable. At it’s most drastic, maybe you could look at keeping the bodice and requesting an entirely different skirt, or vice versa.
You could, as the PP has suggested, add a layer of tulle or chiffon to disguise the colour – could drape that over the bodice as well. You could obviously add embellishments or beading too.
Post # 12
Could she add an overlay to brighten up the color if it is too yellow? Post pics so we can be more helpful.
Post # 13
Dang, this would be a really hard spot to be in!! I made my own dress because I wanted something plain, almost austere. Making an embellished wedding dress that can hold its own against the lace/layers/bling of modern wedding dresses would be so difficult!
If it were me, I would hate to disappoint my mom or in any way put down her work… but did you get the vibe from her that she LOVES the dress on you? Maybe she would agree with you if you asked her to throw the towel in?
Or what about getting a really fancy sash, or bolero?
Post # 14
I think David’s Bridal has dresses that you can buy off the rack if they have it in your size.
Post # 15
Do you have any pics of similar or inspiration dresses so we get a better idea of what can be changed?
Post # 16
Did you have any input on the design?
Honestly, I’d rather have something that no one else has rather than the exact same thing that a lot of people have worn before.
You could have her add Dior roses on the neckline for an embellishment, which would be nice. There’s a Vogue pattern that shows this, I think #7009.
Alternatively she could place flowers and roses on it like in Maggie Sottero’s Rihanna Royale, which would be beautiful but take a lot of time and energy to do. You could make it easier for her by ordering the flowers online, mj trim makes some.
You can get some decent shapewear that will hold you in without boning. Think about using a strapless bra, then getting a high waist short shaper for the rest.
To be fair, my mom is making my rehearsal dinner gown and is having a hard time getting it to fit right, even though we have the fabric and I purchased the right pattern for her as well as told her the adjustments that needed to be made. I about cried when I tried it on, it was so awful.