(Closed) Mom is making my dress…and I hate it.

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 18
2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think your sister’s solution is great.

I hope that your dress turns out better than you thought it would!

Post # 19
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@solidarity:  your sister makes a great point…. I think it is the best idea. 

Post # 21
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@solidarity:  Yea I agree with pp’s and trying to dress it up would help also better lighting with help with the color. Definetely get some pics when its done.

Post # 22
1274 posts
Bumble bee

It’s so hard to tell without a photo of you in the dress…will she be finished it soon and you can post? The flower details in the pattern are very much a big part of this dress it seems, but maybe if you can get rid of the hip flower and add a lovely brooch, or even fabric draping there, or a bit of ruching detail, it might distract from that parts you don’t like on the dress and put more emphasis on the bottom of the skirt rather than the top? 


Post # 23
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@solidarity:  I was going to echo your FI’s comments about finding another dress. I’d rather hurt my mom’s feelings than feel ugly on my wedding day :- I’m sure your mom would understand, especially if the dress doesn’t look how you imagined it would. Was there something she was supposed to do but she didn’t? I am assuming you were involved in the initial design?

Post # 24
1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@solidarity:  I have that pattern! 

I didn’t realize that it wasn’t a strapless gown.  Sorry about that!

You could still wear a regular bra and get shapewear that doesn’t include it.  You still have time to get something that won’t show.

Like this Spanx one, or this other one, that both come in nude that won’t show under white.

If she altered the design for off-the-shoulder sleeves I think you should stay with it.  I think it would be really pretty.

Here’s the link to the Dior rose pattern.  You can see where they’ve placed them on the neckline, and I think that would be a really pretty look.

Post # 25
2846 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@solidarity:  Have you thought of trying a different corset? I switched my corset (longline bra, actually) because the texture of its lace was showing through the dress fabric. (My dress is not completely unlike yours, and I am also full figured). My new corset is basically smooth all over and much less visible. It also does great things for my DDD boobs, and has straps as well. It’s this one.

The other thing I wanted to ask was how close the dress is to being finished? That style dress looks like it depends on the draping being exactly in the right place, which will make the difference between it looking great and looking horrible. I would assume that your mother still has some work to do before the dress looks like it’s supposed to. As she is a professional, I would hope that she wouldn’t let her bias for what she wants her daughter to look like blind her from what you actually look like. I am assuming that she will realise if the dress isn’t doing you justice and will do her utmost to make it work.

Post # 26
4864 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

did you see that patten before she started?

Post # 27
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@solidarity:  The corset thing you can probably fix. Maybe she can line the bodice with layers and layers of softer fabric, and then put the corset inside.

In fact, can she just line the entire dress in that way, so you can add a few layers of crinoline? If you think it looks like a “nightgown” then maybe some poof in the skirt and a train could transform the dress into more of a wedding dress.

As for the dingy yellow color, depending on where your ceremony is, it may not even look that way to your guests, or even to you. For example, I was set on getting a white gown, but because of budget constraints I ended up with an ivory/cream dress. Because my chapel has white walls that reflect their super bright white lighting, my dress will look white, and the diamante details will be more eye-catching than the color of my dress anyway.

And I think off the shoulder 3/4 sleeves might look nice in a delicate lacy or sheer fabric. Does that mean she’s going to make the neckline straight across to accommodate the sleeves?

If so, maybe she could do a sweetheart neckline. And if she can do that corset under the bodice that I mentioned above, that would really change the way the dress looks.

Anyway, good luck with your dress, let us know what happens with it 🙂

Post # 28
481 posts
Helper bee

@solidarity:  This might sound totally random/unpleasant, but if it’s the whiteness of the dress that you’re worried about, would you consider getting a spray tan?

My dress is stark white and my skin is pretty pale. I don’t mind the combo (white+pale) but when I got a test spray tan (which I wanted to get because I’ll spend most of my honeymoon in a bikini) I realized that the dress really looks NICER (crisper, fresher) when my skin has some color. 

Just a thought! Hope you can get it all figured. Is the 26th really your wedding day? Only a week after mine!! :}

Post # 29
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Can you just tell her that you HATE the color? Blame it on the color, and at this point she can’t change that. And get yourself to a Macy’s, Nordstrom, etc and look at off the rack gowns. The style of dress you picked won’t be hard to find something similar. Here are a few options:




These are all gorgeous, and range from $125 – $700. They don’t all come in a 16, but a 12 could work – and maybe your mom could help you tailor it?






This is beautiful (and available in a 16) http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/pisarro-nights-v-neck-beaded-sequin-gown/3277467?origin=category&BaseUrl=Long+Wedding+Dresses






LOVE this and it comes in a 16 http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/adrianna-papell-mesh-inset-stretch-crepe-gown/3500750?origin=category&BaseUrl=Long+Wedding+Dresses


Another beauty, also in a 16 http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/adrianna-papell-strapless-rosette-mermaid-gown/3457709?origin=category&BaseUrl=Long+Wedding+Dresses


Post # 31
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@solidarity:  Why not order yourself that blush one as a back-up/reception gown? It’s not too much, and maybe it’ll make you feel better to at least know you have the option? You can show it to your mom and see what she says?

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