Post # 32
You’d think in 2012 it wouldn’t be an issue, wouldn’t you?
My Future Father-In-Law is less than 20 years older than me…he’s only 62. I look on it as showing how much progress has been made in attitudes towards homosexuality in those years.
InATizzy, so many previous posts by ladies have given you good advice. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Tune it out. My mother turned into a complete nightmare in the 3 months before my first wedding. She disappointed me so much with her insane behavour that I didn’t invite her to my second wedding, 13 years later…
Post # 33
We have a this potential “problem” at our wedding. (I don’t consider it problem but to those conservative ones, it may become one)
For starter, our officiant is openly gay. He was a mentor figure for Fiance at work, we both like him.
And then a few coworker/friends Fiance inviting to wedding are also openly gay. (FI worked for a very liberal company before).
FI’s parents are very old school. We know they aren’t very comfortable with the same sex thing but they won’t say it out loud.
Since we don’t want our guests feel weird with people’s staring eyes, if you know what i mean, we plan on giving all relatives a heads up who will be coming with partners. So they won’t show any surprises at the wedding to embarrass the guests.
Fiance and I made the decision in the beginning, if anyone have problems with our friends’ sexual orientation, they are welcome not to come, parents included.
Post # 34
Your mother is being ridiculous. Tell her to get over it. It is such a non-issue I don’t comprehend why she is making it a big deal. You let her know in no uncertain terms that this person is very important to you and will be there no matter what bulls*it your mother wants to spew. It’s your day and you need to be surrounded by the people you love and sod everyone else!!!
Post # 35
I can’t wait to live in a world where being called a “gay lover” isn’t an insult or makes someone cry.
Post # 36
True, but that wasn’t the majorly upsetting part.
I was upset because of the fact that I told her so that she would not be shocked at the wedding. I thought this was a nice thing to do, and would make things easier for people. Now, my entire family is not speaking to me as my mother has been talking trash about me. She’s very fond of embellishing and twisting stories to make me look bad. Essentially, I tried to make her aware that it would occur so no one would be shocked and make a big deal of it, since they would know to expect it. Instead, it’s all anyone can talk about and I’m a bad person because, according to the story that made it’s way back to me, I said “don’t like it, don’t come to the wedding”. In fact, I said, “you won’t notice it, and if it bothers you, ignore it.” I’m just asking for people to be respectful, but instead my whole family is threatening not to come.
Post # 37
Well love, do you think that perhaps if this is her reaction to something as non issue as this… Her self imposed ” don’t like it don’t come” might be for the best? I’m sorry.
Is your date correct? There’s time for everyone to cool down. Don’t let it bother you and carry on like normal. It will be ok.
Post # 38
Your family are being not only bigots but manipulative. I imagine they will turn up, and if they dont so be it, would you really want people like that at your wedding.
I would just ignore all of it, if they come, great, if they dont come, so be it.
Post # 39
It may be, but it’s just incredibly hurtful. She’s turned it into a situation as if I don’t care about anyone but myself, but that clearly isn’t true. I’m trying to include my BM’s guest like I am everyone else, and she’s making it seem like I’m giving her special treatment or something. I just hate the fact that now my whole family is angry with me over NOTHING. I definitely expected things to be awkward, but not this bad.
Post # 40
your mom will get over it. just have the girl in your wedding party and dont discuss it any further with your mom. end of story 🙂