Post # 1
Ok, so my mom is great. She is an amazing woman, and I love her to death. But I can’t help but get a little bit frustrated because she just doesn’t seem to CARE about being a part of planning my wedding. I’m sure I had a completely unrealistic vision of my mom being all “Diane Keaton” in Father of the Bride, but that is so not happening. She was a little bit like this when we were planning my sisters wedding 3 years ago. But now it’s like she has already been through this two times before with my other two siblings, and it’s just too much work for her to get involved in everything.
I’m just bummed……I wish she wanted to be more involved and at least tried to act interested when I talk about the planning.
Anyone else going through this?
Post # 3
I’m sorta going through this. My mom was VERY excited when I first told her of my engagement but then once I actually started to plan things, her excitement suddenly seemed to vanish. I felt extremely bummed until I talked to her about it….turns out, she doesn’t know how to act or what to do. She’s never actually had a wedding. She eloped. Once I understood that and let her know that I really just want her to show excitement, things are a lot better.
Not trying to be rude, but when your sister got married did she want to plan everything, every detail? Did she want just feedback, not necessarily approval or really “help”? That’s the only idea that I can think of….if you’re mom was just more present 3 years ago, maybe that’s what she think you just want. I’d talk to her.