- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
JMO, a wedding is not up for negotiation, it is not a democracy. 20, 30, 40, 50yrs from now, you and your husband will be remembering your special day.
Yout Mom NEEDS to remember it is not about her and she can suck it up, smile and avoid your Dad (no one is forcing them to dance and chat with eachother)
I would say “Sorry that your hatred for Dad and his wife ios deeper than your love for me, but you are an adult and if that is how you feel then I respect it. Sorry you will not be attending the wedding”
You do not need negativity and this is like negotiating with a terrorist..a fools errand. If she is bluffing then she’ll only sulk b/c she could not emotionally black mail you, if she is serious then she has to live her life knowing she chose hate (for your dad and SM)over love (for you).
You will have a beautiful wedding and she will have pain and regrets…not your fault or problem do not put it on yourself