- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I just need to rant because my mom is driving me up a wall. I’m currently completing an internship for my masters program. My program forces us to move elsewhere for internships since there are not enough opportunities in my city. Last year, when I was planning my internship, my mom & I thought it would be a great idea for me to move back home for 4 months and save money. Whoops! How I regret that choice!
I have been away from home since I was 18 (7, almost 8 years). I got used to being independent and have lived alone for the past 2 years. Now I’m in a small house (my mom moved since I went to college) and my mom works from home. So when I am not at my internship, we are always around each other. Needless to say, I’m counting down the days until May 2nd.
My mom wants to know everything I’m doing and exactly why I’m doing it. Then she will let me know what she would do instead. If I tell her about my day she criticizes my work choices (even though I’m doing what I’m trained to do). She gives me a guilt trip if I go to my room or go out instead of spending time with her.
She has become jealous of my FI. He did not move with me (obviously) so I spend a lot of time talking on the phone or Skype with him. We made a plan that he would visit once a month while I’m here. He has visited twice and each time he leaves, my mom acts jealous that I have someone else in my life. She tells me that since he gets to stay here for free, he should be doing yard work and housework for her instead of hanging out with me constantly. When I told her that he is happy to help and just tell him what to do, she tells me that he should know what he needs to do. She also gets mad when my FI & I make decisions for the wedding because she believes that the bride’s parents are in charge so he has no say (even though we are splitting the costs down the middle).
I seriously feel like I get so irritiated with her that I revert back into my 16-year-old self. I roll my eyes and snap at her. I don’t mean to and always feel guilty afterwards. But she has no boundaries with me. I’ve tried telling her how I feel but then she gives me a guilt trip and she will call my aunt and loudly complain about how no one loves her.
Has anyone else dealt with a difficult mom? I’m halfway through my internship and I’m worried my relationship with my mom will be completely ruined by the end of it. Help!