(Closed) Mom issues, venting, please tell me I’m not crazy!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Tell her…”When you pay for my dress, I’ll send invites.” Seems fair to me LOL

Post # 4
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think this is particularly tough because you do live with them.  Are you paying them rent?

I think if i were not paying rent, i would include her 3 friends.  If i am paying rent, i would tell her no.  I would also tell her that for budgeting purposes it makes it very difficult for you since you arent really sure if she was sincere in what she says she’s going to pay for.

Post # 5
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly, I agree with the first suggestion.  She can pay for your dress and that will help you pay for her friends to come.  Win win, right?? 

Post # 6
46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you ever sat down and worked out a budget for the entire wedding?

It should include the total number of guests that you can afford. Allot your mother a certain number of guests.

In the budget include the $ that mom committed to pay for 1/2 the dress, so she gets a visual reminder.

Then sit down with mom and go over the budget.


Post # 8
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


I would ask her to pay for their plates and remind her of your dress. If she does not help with the dress, I would not invite her friends. I’m a bit of a bridezilla though LOL

Post # 9
54 posts
Worker bee

@mwitter80: agreed. However, do you pay rent a/o utilities? If you don’t you have a uphill battle with this.

Post # 10
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d remind her about the dress and tell her (very nicely) that you can’t afford to invite those friends if she doesn’t sort out payment for your wedding dress, as you’ll have to find the money for that aswell.

Post # 11
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@jerrbear585: O, goodness, my mom also keeps adding ppl, even after I told her that I really only have the money for 60 guests. I do not feel her requests are unfair, but I really cannot add more ppl, so, I am listing all of these ppl she is adding daily and when I am ready to send the invites I am going to tell her that she can pick 4/5 ppl she would really like to be there. I find arguing with her over this ever time she adds someone is pointless, so I am doing it this way! Hope that helps.

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