(Closed) Mom-less wedding planning

posted 7 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sure you can plan a wonderful wedding. It’ll be hard without your mom, but I’m sure she’ll be there in spirit.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

im so sorry you are feeling quite alone in the planning process. My mom is my rock, i love her to death and is the most amazing woman i have ever met – She started this new job over the summer and works really hard, she works so much in fact that she just hasnt had time to help me plan my wedding. she is supporting me financially (for the wedding) and for me that is all i can ask of her. On that note: i can only just imagine how you feel, stay strong and know that you can plan this wedding alone. (with the help of Fiance and the Bee of course!) i’ve had 5 months and pretty much did everything alone, Fiance has been a huge help too.

Chin up 🙂 we are here for support.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yeah my Mom was not around to help with planning for my second or this wedding (my 3rd and last!) as she died in 1989. However, I really didn’t have weddings the first two times, so the whole thing was a new experience for me and I was really disappointed with how much of the process I had to do all by myself. My BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor were virtually no help what so ever. Kind of a good and bad thing as our wedding was truly unique, but the planning was VERY stressful and I was so glad when it was over. We ended up having an early evening garden wedding followed by a simple reception afterwards (just punch, a coffee bar, light refreshments and cake) and a huge casual pig roast the next day. No registry, no DJ, no limos, etc. But then again I paid for the wedding and I was unwilling to go into debt for it (DH paid for the honeymoon). 5K for everything except the honeymoon. Weddingbee was a tremendous help, great place to get questions answered and get feedback! [attachment=1594169,198905]

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I understand your lonliness. My Mom passed in 1997 and I don’t have any bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor. We are having my fiances’ nieces and nephew as our attendants. The oldest is 14. I have had to make many of the arrangements myself. I am eternally greatful for my Mother in law to be…as she is so much fun and offers tons of support all of the time. I even credit her with getting us back together…we dated in our twenties and remained friends for 20+ years. Now we are both 45. It is hard planning the biggest moment of ones life without thier mother…I totally understand and my heart goes out to you. Chose a part of your wedding that will symbolize your Mom and her presence in your life…i.e. wear a piece of her jewelry or carry her favorite flowers. It will make you feel like she is there with you on your big day! Good luck to you.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sandy,

I completed understand your feeling orphaned. I just lost my mom March 21st and am broken-hearted to not have my mom be a part of the planning, not to mention the fact that she will not be there to see me exchange vows with Mr. D. Its just an awful sinking feeling that makes my heart ache whenever I think about it and a day has yet gone by that I haven’t broke down missing her, as I am doing now as I write this. I feel like a scared, lone little girl.

I am planning to incorporate her favorite flower, daisies into much of the details as a way of feeling her presence on that day. In addition, we are making a memorial tree (of photos) for all of our close family members and friends that have passed away and cannot be in attendance. It will sit on a little table with the programs for the ceremony and will be moved over to our gift table, which will have family and friends’ photos and vintage hankies strung above.

It is very important to Mr. D & I to honor them all. They are forever in our hearts~

Post # 8
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sandy,

I completed understand your feeling orphaned. I just lost my mom March 21st and am broken-hearted to not have my mom be a part of the planning, not to mention the fact that she will not be there to see me exchange vows with Mr. D. Its just an awful sinking feeling that makes my heart ache whenever I think about it and a day has yet gone by that I haven’t broke down missing her, as I am doing now as I write this. I feel like a scared, lone little girl.

I am planning to incorporate her favorite flower, daisies into much of the details as a way of feeling her presence on that day. In addition, we are making a memorial tree (of photos) for all of our close family members and friends that have passed away and cannot be in attendance. It will sit on a little table with the programs for the ceremony and will be moved over to our gift table, which will have family and friends’ photos and vintage hankies strung above.

It is very important to Mr. D & I to honor them all. They are forever in our hearts~

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