(Closed) Mom made wrong veil. . . advice needed! (Pics)

posted 6 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: What should I do about my veil?
    Use it as is--your mom worked hard to make it and it looks fine. : (13 votes)
    22 %
    Modify it into a single-tier so that your mom still made it, but it's more what you want. : (38 votes)
    63 %
    Buy a new veil--exactly what you wanted. : (8 votes)
    13 %
    Other. : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Removing a tier should be too difficult but definetly try not to ditch the hole thing. Unless you sew a lot or do anything like that no one can appreciate the work one puts into these things.

    Post # 4
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    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It can be very upsetting when you have a specific look you want and you arent able to have that. In your situation, your mom might be very sensitive to altering the veil. I would sit her down and explain gently that the veil is a little too full and isnt working with your hairstyle. (you mentioned you wanted half up, you might not be able to see the back of your hair/dress as well?) It might not be the most honest way to go but there is no reason to hurt your mom’s feelings when you dont have to. After all, she did work very hard on it and you said you dont hate the veil completely. This explaination will lessen the possible tension between you and your mom and allow you to make the changes you want!

    Hope this helps!

    Post # 6
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    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Also, if you do cut off the top layer, Adding a hair comb to the top of the veil will cover any unsightly bits of material. All you really need is a trip to your favorite bridal salon. You may already have something in mind!

    Post # 7
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    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Those veils look nothing alike. If you send her the photos, she can see for herself- although I assume she had the first photo to work from?? Not sure what happened- are you ok with the bottom of it?

    Worst case scenario- you could sell the veil she made and buy another one- but talk to her first. I can see why you’re disappointed- the one your Mom made is beautiful- but it’s like night and day from what you wanted.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1576 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Personally I think if you remove one tier, the veil wo0uld look fine.

    Post # 9
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    This is a tough one, because I know my heart break telling my mom it wasn’t right.  I agree with PP – maybe you can say that now that you’ve tried it on, your wedding hair will look better with only 1 tier…

    Post # 11
    Bee
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    The veil looks like its made out of organza, not tulle?

    Post # 12
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @eagle:  that’s what I thought too! I think you just need to be honest with her and show her the photo because that’s not even close to the same. 

    Post # 13
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    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    This is your one day and it should be what you want.  Your mom should understand you only get to do this once.

    Post # 14
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    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Can I say they looking nothing alike and the bottom one looks nothing like a veil should.  You bought the dress of your dreams do you want to mess with the look by the veiL.

    Post # 15
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    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think you should wear it, altered or no!

    I know it isn’t perfect, but your mom put a lot of hard work and money into making that, as well as love. I think if you don’t wear it that someday when you’re older, and you look back on your wedding and she’s gone, you’ll regret not wearing it. That’s how I’d feel anyway.

     

    It’d make her so sad, and it’s so great she put the effort in. 

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