Member- abbyful
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My mom wants to make my cake and the reception food. I was kind of okay with the cake, but I’m very hesitant on the food.
On the cake, I worry she’s going to listen to how I want it decorated. I’ve sent her pictures, and then she was showing me pictures when she was here in a cake decorating book, she wants way more stuff on it than I do. I want a smooth white cake with a few accent flowers. She thinks there should be icing-work like swirls and stuff all over it, and then tons and tons of flowers.
And for the food, first, she’s never cooked for a group this big (100-125 people). Second, she’s not listening to me on the menu. She’s not even asking me on the menu, just telling me, “we’ll have this, this, and this”. She said chicken and ham, I don’t want ham, I suggested chicken and beef, she she just blows it off!
Can I “fire” her? I don’t want to be a bridezilla, but this is my wedding and she’s not even trying to listen to what I want, she’s doing her own thing.
And fiance is very upset at the fact my mother wants me to be cooking the food for my own wedding reception. He’s told me “you are NOT doing that! this is your wedding celebration, we’ll hire someone!”
(This is my 2nd wedding, my first wedding I chose NOTHING except the cake, because I want with my ex-mother-in-law to choose it. My mom picked my dress, my colors, my bridesmaids dresses, the decorations, etc., she would just come home with stuff and say “here’s your dress!” or “here’s your decorations!” I don’t want a repeat of that!)
