(Closed) Mom making her dress, wedding in 7 weeks, hasn’t even started!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would not order a dress behind her back. Why don’t you just aproach it like you are trying to take the stress off of her? Say something like, ” mom, I know that you have a lot on your plate right now with the wedding coming up so soon, would it be easier to go find one in a store?”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey, she’s a grown woman. If she doesn’t make the dress, she’ll buy one she likes less. She can dress herself, don’t stress yourself out over this.

Post # 5
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My question is, do I go out and order a backup dress for her from David’s Bridal or Alfred Angelo without telling her?  Or do I tell her upfront a backup is required and try and force her (somehow) to come with me to get measured?   Absolutely not. Your mother is a grown woman and can ensure she is dressed–especially for her daughter’s wedding. It does not take 7 weeks to make a dress. She will either do it, or procrastinate and buy a dress. Either way, it’s not your responsibililty.

Post # 6
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really wouldnt worry about this. She can always buy a dress if she doesnt make hers or wear something nice she already has

Post # 7
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Newbee

I wouldn’t worry about it. She is a grown woman as she pointed out. Heck, I didn’t even have my wedding dress 7 weeks bofore the wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

It sounds like your mom has quite a bit of sewing experience, I really wouldn’t worry about it.  I sew alot as well and 7 weeks out from a wedding, I wouldn’t feel rushed to make a dress.  I made my prom dress in a weekend, so it goes by pretty quick. 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom was supposed to make my bridesmaids’ dresses (two).  In fact she had insisted that she make them (as opposed to me — I do alright).  But after a couple of months with the pattern for only one gown cut out a pinned, I got sick of asking and told her, “This is bringing my anxiety level way up.  I can’t handle last minute dresses for this; I’m buying some.”  And then, as luck would have it, J.Crew put the chifon Sophia gown on sale with and axtra 30% off.  I bought them (and my mom got to hem them — she still wanted to have a job). 

MY mom knows me.  She knows that if I say something is making me anxious, I need to fix it.  She let me.  I’m sure your mom knows you well enough to understand your point of view.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a dressmaker myself,  and your mum clearly sounds very capable ,  if she is making her dress,  it will day a day.  she knows her capabilities,  and if i was making my own dress,  i also wouldnt start making it until 2-3 weeks before the wedding.  she has time, plenty of time….if she is as good as you say. 

if she was a novice then i would be worried,  and probably panick that she hadnt begun working on it, but she isnt a novice.   and hey……even if it didnt get done, she will buy something to wear.  she wont turn up at your wedding in jeans and tee shirt….i wouldnt panic at all.

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