(Closed) Mom problems

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ok.  First.  Step back.  Take a breath.  Calm down.

I think the most stressful parts of planning are when you have no plans yet. 

This is your wedding.  Don’t worry about “getting in trouble” with your Mom.  That goes for your Sister too.  If you want to start looking at wedding dresses, do it.  If you want ot start looking at venues even though your mom says its too soon (it isn’t) – do it.  Come back armed with ideas and actual information, such as dates available at sites you are interested in and prices.

It’s only been two days.  Just relax.  Things will get easier.  They are the most stressful right in the beginning (and right at the end, or so I’m told).

Post # 4
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry your Mom is being difficult. I agree that you should get married now instead of 2012, don’t wait just b/c your Mom doesn’t think it’s a good time of year. And from now on, keep decisions like the bridal party to yourself. I know you’re really excited, but it’s harder for her to complain or say negative things about it after it’s set in stone like they’ve all been asked and agreed.

Have a heart to heart with her in a few days and say that you wish she could be happier for you and more supportive, but either way you’re getting married this fall so decisions need to be made now in order to accomplish that. If she can’t make herself available for dress shopping, she’ll just have to see pictures.

Post # 5
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’d say just be “stupid and cheerfull” with your mom. When she says your Bridal party is going to cause drama, just chuckle and say “O mom your so funny” and let it be. Try not to let her get under you skin, which I know can be hard.

Post # 6
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Honestly, it sounds like maybe your mom is just a little overwhelmed right now.  If you just got engaged two days ago, she might not be really ready to start wedding planning yet.  That, combined with the holidays, might make wedding planning seem more stressful than exciting/fun right now.  Maybe give her a little time (after the new year?) without wedding talk, and then approach her again.  After she has a bit of time to let the engagement sink in (and recover from the holidays), she might be more open to helping you with planning (and be excited about it!  🙂

Post # 7
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

Sorry you’re having issues with your mom! If you’re getting married next September or October, it’s definitely time to start looking for dresses. Maybe your mom thinks you should make some of the bigger decisions first, like booking a venue or a photographer? I would think that’s probably more important right now than looking at dresses. 

My family was also not happy with the date we set and wanted us to wait (we also would have had to wait till 2012 otherwise!), but they are all fine with it now. It just takes time to get used to a big decision, I think.

Why can’t you go dress shopping with your other BMs if your mom won’t go? I went with my friends and had a pretty good idea of what I wanted before I brought my mom with me to see the dress. 

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