(Closed) Mom ruined V-day plans

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2765 posts
Sugar bee

Can you move your V-day plans to the 15th?  Maybe your V-day can still be salvaged!

Post # 4
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Geez! That stinks, I’m so sorry! Honestly, if that were me with my family & they decided to make plans without consulting everyone first on a holiday as special as that to you & your Fiance, I would just go over there Saturday night instead and visit with them and just explain you already had restaurant reservations or something. They aint ruining my day! Sorry girl, hope yall figure this out!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

She will get over it If you have plans with your Fiance she will just have to understand.  You are marrying him and starting a new family. Tell her you Fiance planned something that can’t be changed and is already paid for

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is the worst.  Especially since you have to drive 3 hours round trip and it is on a Sunday.  Is there any way she can move it to the 13th (Saturday) so that it won’t be so inconvieny driving wise and not on Valentine’s Day?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I know that it really stinks that your mom did this, but Valentine’s Day is also on Sunday. Maybe you guys could do your thing on Saturday night instead? My thought is that it doesn’t matter which day you celebrate…as long as you get to spend some time together and make it your day, you will have fun!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I would just ask if they can move it back a day to Saturday.  Who on earth travels on a Sunday anyway??  Stick to your guns lady, your man obviously had plans for you too!  You set precedents little by little, and this is one of those times you must CLEARLY indicate to your family that your Fiance wins.  He made plans for you which aren’t easily changed, so they just need to understand that you have your own family to think about too, and that starts with FI!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I wouldn’t just tell your mom NO & let that be it…I would have a talk with her & just tell her that your Fiance had specific plans for yall to go out and enjoy an evening together and that you really are sorry, but you’d love to come visit on a Saturday instead of actual Valentines Day. If she gets mad about it, then that’s her problem. My family would be completely understanding about that & actually think it’s sweet that my Fiance would want to do something so special for me. You’re not completely blowing them off, you would then be willing to come and spend a little bit of time with them instead of none at all.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

Since they didn’t ask if you were available that night before scheduling it , I would just tell them no, you can’t go because you already have plans. If they wanted to do something the day before then you are available.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I know how you feel.  My Darling Husband signed his sons up for a WRESTLING TOURNAMENT on V-Day.  Um, this is our 1st V-Day as a married couple.  Who does tournaments on Valentines Day! 

It actually worked out, because there was this spa doing couples massages and some other stuff and are not open on Sunday – so we decided to have our celebration on Saturday.

Nut still….

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

if Fiance can’t reschedule, then I would say ‘no’ to my mom…he’s trying to be nice, but your mom has to realize he’s your main family now, and she can’t just make you cancel reservations.  I’d offer to do brunch with her on Sunday?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

Hmm…now that you say your Fiance probably planned something that couldn’t be changed, maybe talk with your mom about switching it to Saturday? If she’s unwilling, just let her know t hat you had a really special night planned and you can’t switch your plans or you’ll lose them. This is a really terrible situation that your mom put you in. Hope things work out!!!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… I would definintely tell her to suck it up and deal with the fact that you already have plans. Sounds like he’s got something special planned! Y’all are starting a new family and it sounds like he wants it to be really special! Mom can move it back 1 night.

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