- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 1997
I agree that you either need to take legal action or you need to have finally learned a lesson from this. You knew this would happen, and yet you allowed a check for you to be mailed there and weren’t there for weeks. You know the expression, “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” An expensive lesson to learn, certainly, and it doesn’t in any way, shape or form make what your mother did okay, but besides taking legal action or getting over it an not allowing her the opportunity to do something like this again, you really don’t have much in terms of options.
I wouldn’t ever have mail come to her address again, and I wouldn’t even stay with her if you decide to visit again. Keep your distance and don’t allow her to know about the important things going on in your life (the more information she has, the more potential she has to interfere). She must not have access to any of your important documents (meaning you cannot have luggage or a purse around her unattended), any financial information, etc. Think about life as if she weren’t there. How would you have handled the car thing then? Since you cannot depend on her not to take illegal and fraudulent action against you, you must act as though she does not exist – in banking, purchases, mailing, places to stay, travel companions, etc. You need to protect yourself and not allow her any information about you that she could use against you (which is almost anything). I wouldn’t even let her know the date I was leaving or flights I was taking, because she might try to call the airline and cancel. It’s a shame to have to do this, but it’s either guarding everything personal about yourself from her or cutting contact entirely.