(Closed) Mom / Shower Issues (long)

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This could potentially cause problems, so I don’t truly recommend it….

but you could always just not go. Or threaten to not go. I mean, it’s not like she can make you drive 2 hours to an event you don’t want to attend. Or tell her she needs to arrange for your transportation and for someone to check on your dogs.

This is just the argumentative daughter in my talking, so probably not very helpful!

Post # 5
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It’s always tricky when money is involved! Unfortunately I can’t think of a good solution if she’s being so stubborn…

Post # 6
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8176 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if the guests don’t want to drive to where the party is how ever many hours away it is, they can decline the invite.

since you really don’t want a shower, why doesn’t your mom just host something really small with the grandma and aunts.

 

 

Post # 9
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2719 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you tell her either it’s where you want it or no shower? Remind her that you don’t even want a shower, and if it’s not how you want, there’s no shower, no discussion.

Edit: just saw your update. I think a “normal” mom would listen to that. They would either do something small/simple, or do a shower where you want. Or, do nothing at all. Glad you responded with that.

Post # 11
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2719 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Snapdragon2804:  I don’t blame you. I would be nervous too. I have also had to deal with telling my mom my feeligns on things that I was nervous to hear her response back for. It’s not fun!

Post # 13
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2905 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Tell your Mum to have a luncheon up where she lives with just you, her, Nanna & Aunt then get your MIL to have the shower so it’s convenient for you and your guests. I know its not exactly what you want but sometimes its best to keep the peace. 

Post # 14
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5755 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m a Mom, and I would think that since you’re being so adament about not even wanting one, I’d drop it and not even plan it for you. I would also feel you have no problem inconveniencing her and your GM (who is much older) and making THEM do that drive instead of yourself and your friends. That, in itself, would hurt my feelings. Good for you and screw her is pretty much what you’re saying.  

 

I can’t see her not being hurt by this, but at least you’ll get your way.

 

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