Post # 1
Hi bees. My mom still hasn’t bought a dress for the wedding and continues to wait and wait and wait! I think she’s hoping to drop a few pounds, but honestly… the wedding is in 2 months and this is just getting irritating. My FI’s mom bought a beautiful and absolutely stunning dress. And, unfortunately, I really think it’s going to be difficult for my mom to find something similar off the rack. I want her to feel beautiful in comparison to FI’s mom and I just hope she can find something in such a short time.
And, to top it off, my mom is being totally unreasonable about my involvement with her dress. I’m not pressuring her to buy one style or another… I just want to be involved! She says that my opinon on her choice of dress doesn’t matter at all. Is that true bees? I asked her if I could go shopping with her and she said absolutely not. I just thought this might be a fun mother daughter thing and she couldn’t be less interested.
Post # 3
I understand how it is. My mom is the same way – my FI’s mom bought a great dress, and my mom hasn’t even started looking. Hopefully your mom will come around soon! have you told her how much this means to you?
Post # 4
It really shouldn’t take 2 month for her to find a dress, honestly. She just needs to choose something nice and tasteful, but MOB dresses are often bought off the rack. Don’t stress or bug her, worry about what you need to take care of.
Post # 5
I’m attending a family wedding at the end of march, and havent found a dress yet! i think your mom sill be able to find somethng n 2 months. she may be worried that if she buys it now, it wont fit by then. i wouldnt pressure her, she may just want to shop at her own pace. some people prefer to shop alone so t hey are not influenced by other’s opinions.
Post # 6
Two months to find a dress is plenty of time – it’s not like it’s going to be a custom made dress or something that requires alterations. More than likely, she’s going to walk into a store, try something on, like it, take it to the counter, pay for it, and take the dress home with her. She could buy it the day before your wedding and it wouldn’t be an issue.
And no, I don’t think you need to go shopping with her – respect her decision to go alone and not want your opinion on the dress she chooses. She’s an adult woman who can decide what she wants to wear without input from anyone else. She is absolutely correct in saying that your opinion of her dress doesn’t matter; it may be your wedding but that doesn’t mean you get to have a say in what she wears.
Calm down, stop bugging her about whether or not she’s bought her dress, and when she does eventually buy one, tell her it is absolutely gorgeous and will look lovely on her, even if it’s not at all what you would have picked.
ETA: Not sure you’re doing this, but as you mentioned in your post that your FI’s mom has a beautiful and stunning dress, I wonder if you may have mentioned the same thing to your mum? If so, you are just increasing the pressure on her to find something that is going to compare, and if she has a few pounds she wants to lose, hearing that is REALLY not going to help. Don’t say another word about your FMIL’s dress and leave your mum to it. It’s not like she’s going to show up in jeans and sweatshirt so just trust that she has common sense and good taste and will look lovely on the day.
Post # 7
2 months should give her plenty of time to find a suitable dress… I did not go with my mom or my Future Mother-In-Law to go buy their dresses, and what they picked out will work just fine. I am sure she is very aware of when your wedding is and will have something long before the big day!