- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
When I got engaged my parents told me that my fiance and I could do what we wanted because it was our wedding (They have offered to pay for the majority of it). My mom a couple days ago told me she disagreed with our decisions and that she “didn’t want to be embarrassed by our tacky wedding because everyone knows the bride’s parents pay for the wedding”. So I’m a little confused and a lot hurt. She even tried to go look at a wedding (After we’ve already booked one) without us! When we went and looked with her the site that could hold our guest count was too expensive so she tried to insist that we cut our guestlist by 60 people so we could book the smaller site at the venue. My fiance and I really like the other less expensive venue that she didn’t seem to have an issue with when we booked it three months ago. She also suddenly has problems with our ideas about the music, food, and decor that she did not mention until just recently. Another thing that worries me is that my parents disagree on how much they should spend. My mom wants to spend far more than my dad thinks they can afford. She seems to have the mentality that more expensive = always better. I asked her if she had talked to dad about the more expensive venue and if they could afford it and she said she hadn’t spoken to him about it. I don’t want her going behind his back or mine which I feel like she is kind of doing by planning to go look at a venue without me. I absolutely do not want the wedding to be a financial burden and have my dad end up resenting it because it costs so much. I really appreciate that they are paying for the wedding and I want to compromise to make us both happy. When my parents can’t even agree on what they want to do I don’t know where to begin. I’m an only child and my mom and dad ended up eloping so I feel like she’s trying to plan her wedding and not planning mine with me. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with a situation like this?