Post # 1
So my mom isn’t so thrilled or excited about the wedding. She likes my fiancé and gets along well with him. But when it comes to the actual wedding she could care less. I am going dress shopping next week and she keeps complaining about how she doesn’t want to go and why can’t I go by myself to pick out the dress. We never really had a strong mother daughter bond, but I guess I was hoping we could bond during the wedding process and that she would be excited. Are there any other brides going through this?
EDIT: my Mother-In-Law has been very supportive and helpful with planning the wedding. But I am scared to bond with her because that is something that I feel like I should be doing with MY mom.
Post # 3
My mom left everything to me to do, but she’s really come through at the end when she saw the things I couldn’t manage. Get your most excited friends and go dress shopping with them! It’s better to have that energy with you.
Post # 4
My mum has been much the same… she has specifically said she doesnt like my dress and seems to question all choices we make :S
Post # 5
@Southerngirl4234: I’m sorry you’re going through this! My suggestion would be to invite her one more time when you’re going out, if she says no than its a no. Ask people who DO want to be involved like one or two friends and your Mother-In-Law.
I know you want to have your mom with you every step of the way, but it seems like its not going to happen for the time being. She may come around after awhile but don’t focus so much on that, focus on those who do.
Hope everything works out and I hope you find your dream dress! 😀
Post # 6
I went through something similar with my Mom – and I ended up listening to her and went dress shopping without her. Now, it’s something we both regret (even though she won’t say that to my face!) It really bothers her that she wasn’t there and doesn’t really love the dress I ended up buying.
If possible, I would try to convince her to come along – it is an irreplaceable memory for a mother and daughter and it would be a shame for her to miss it.
Post # 7
My mom has been the same way, except she hasn’t been thrilled about anythhing, but I really want her to go dress shopping with me when the time comes. Even though I know it will be hectic to have her there, it’s still important.
Try to convince her to come but if she won’t then take some of your friends.
Post # 8
Thanks yall so much! I am going to try and keep pushing and hopefully she will come around. It’s kind of nice to know that I am not the only one with a mom like this-it’s hard to see my friends who are also going through the wedding process or who have already gotten married to have that strong bond with their mom.