(Closed) Mom Vent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wedding’s can be super stressful and bring out the worst in people! I would just take a deep breath, step back and try not to take things too personally. My mother can be a bit like that as well when it comes to wedding planning, but at the end of the day it is my day and she understands that. Maybe you should try calling her or spending the day with her for a non wedding related reason? Maybe that would help? Good Luck, it will all work out in the end!

Post # 4
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2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I’m sorry to hear about that, it’s a really difficult situation. Is there something you’re not too invested in that you can give her 100% control over? Like flowers or something? That might make her feel better.

Post # 5
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This is difficult. Is your FI’s family planning the rehearsal dinner? If not, have your mom help plan that. If you haven’t already done so, make sure to take her dress shopping with you.

Post # 9
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@DCbride123:  I would just have a conversation with her and tell her that while you are trying ot make sure she is included in helping plan, she isn’t making it easy for you since everything you would like her to help with she doesn’t want to do. I know that may be a difficult conversation to have with her being the fact she is your mom, but I really have no idea what to tell you other than the fact that I am sorry this is happening to you.

Post # 10
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5762 posts
Bee Keeper

Are you just updating her with your already made decisions or are you actually asking her for her feelings about anything? I can understand her not feeling included if she’s only being told what’s been planned, because if that’s the case, she really isn’t. Giving her a ‘job’ isn’t the same as being asked for input or if she sees any problems or conflicts that might work out better.

You’ve only been engaged a few weeks, so unless the wedding is right around the corner, it may seem to her like you’re rushing everything and not even enjoying being engaged for a few minutes!

Post # 11
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@DCbride123:  You are offering her ways to help and she keeps turning them down. It seems to me she wants to be in control of all the larger decision, such as guest list and location.

Stop giving her the power. Keep her updated but do what YOU want to do. I would not invite those cousins either

Post # 12
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Keep your chin up! You might have a mom-zilla on your hands!! So hold to what you want, stand your ground without getting ugly you know, and when everything is said and done it will be your day, and it would be amazing!! I will keep my fingers crossed for you! Good luck.

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