Post # 1
so this is me in my dress and veil at my first fitting. my moh went crazy over how bridal i looked. my mom thought it was “ok”. she was concerned that i was showing too much skin/arm fat. =P
so my mom bought me this bolero to wear with my dress. she was over the moon when i came out in the bolero.
but my moh thinks the bolero + blingy veil + the belt and my bling earrings… it all might be “too much”. she thinks i should consider no bolero for the ceremony since i will have my veil covering me up (and it will only be like 30 minutes). then i can wear the bolero during the reception as like a 2nd look. what do you bees think? is it “too much”? do i need the bolero for coverage?
Post # 3
I think it looks great with or without it. I dont think you “need” the coverage but I would wear the bolero the whole time.
Post # 4
lol, the one thing I didn’t *hear* you say was what YOU thought of the dress with/without the bolero 🙂 I also don’t think you need the coverage and think that your look in the first pic is beautiful! The bolero is really neat and very delicate with the dress though. My concern would be comfort– is the bolero comfortable to dance in and party the night away? I got really hot at my reception on the dance floor and wouldn’t have wanted something on my arms. You’ll look great no matter what you choose!
Post # 5
I love your bolero!!! I don’t think you need it at all, but I personally love the look. I would not wear it during the ceremony because you’ll have your veil on, but I would put it on afterwards for the reception. If you get hot or it gets uncomfortable, you can take it off when it’s time to dance. Your mom should be happy with that compromise.
Post # 6
@CEtoSAHM: i really like the bolero! i just don’t like my mom’s reason for wanting the bolero (ie: my arms are too fat and i need to cover them). =P
really, i could go either way. i just wanted to see other opinions since my mom was so strongly for the bolero and my moh was so strongly against.
Post # 7
I like the suggestion that you go veil-only for the ceremony and then go to the bolero afterwards. They are both gorgeous pieces with your dress, you can’t REALLY go wrong!
Post # 8
Wow…. how do you feel about your “arm fat” and “need for coverage”? I think every picture you posted looks FANTASTIC! But, I do think the bolero just at the reception is a good idea, once the veil is off 🙂 Not for nothing, and please remember I think you look great, but a little lace doesn’t “cover up” ANYTHING 🙂
Post # 9
I personally think you look absolutely beautiful without the bolero! However it may be wise to have it on hand as a cover-up if it gets cold at all on the day.
Post # 10
The first pic is bridal perfection! You don’t need to cover up anything! If you love the bolero, keep it on hand for the reception.
Post # 11
I think it looks great with or without the bolero. I don’t think you’re showing too much skin and I don’t think there’s too much arm fat…so if that’s your only reason for wearing it, I would politely let your mother know that’s not what you want and maybe just wear it for a few pictures or the reception and skip it during the ceremony. It’s about you, so if you don’t want to wear it…DON’T. I’m sure you’re mom will understand…eventually.
Post # 12
I don’t think you need it, either but it is lovely. What about wearing it for the ceremony only and then taking it off for the reception!? Isn’t that a more common thing to do? Am I nuts here?
Like PPs said, do whatever makes you feel good. It looks great both ways!
Post # 13
I actually love the bolero, it looks beautiful! I don’t think you “need” the coverage, but I think it looks stunning on you. It sounds like both your mum and moh have strong opinions on the dress, but do what’s right for YOU. 🙂
Post # 14
I agree with moh. But the bolero is not needed it should be wanted.
Post # 15
I thought I would wear the veil and then switch to bolero for the reception, but I tried it all on together at the seamstress and I wore the bolero the whole time. From the picture I don’t think its too much at all… but that’s from someone that wore both.
Post # 16
the bolero is very pretty, but I think you look better without it