(Closed) mom wanting to control groomsmen attire

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Who is paying for the wedding?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Then you should probably try to make your parents happy. I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask your groomsmen to take out their earrings for just one day. If you were paying for the wedding yourself, then you could do anything you wanted too, but since it is your father paying, then you kinda need to go with what your parents are asking. Sorry.

We are paying for our own wedding, so we don’t have this problem.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Are you really going to be able to notice the earrings? I mean, unless they are wearing 1ct. or higher rocks in their ears, is it going to be that distracting? My groom and some of the groomsmen have their ears pierced, and we are having a formal wedding, but none of them really wear obnoxious earrings so we arent too worried about it.

I could see asking them not to wear them if they were just completely distracting, otherwies I would not let mom get too stressed out about it. 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Honestly, I think that’s kind of a silly request. If she honestly would be upset if they didn’t take them out, then maybe. But…I just think they should be able to keep them in.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You could always say you asked them, and then they can do what they want on the day.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I guess you could ask, but I don’t think they are in any way obligated to.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

Man, it always upsets me when I hear about someone’s parents wanting to control things because they’re paying. It almost feels like the money comes with strings attached, i.e. “We’ll pay for your wedding, but only if you do it our way.”

I can understand your mom wanting input on the big things, but this earring thing just seems ridiculous.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

For something so trivial, I would just tell mom that I asked them not to, and if someone happens to be wearing them on the day of… oh well 🙂  Earrings are not the end of the world.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ditto MichelleMyBell!

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