(Closed) Mom wants my dad to convince me to have a destination wedding >.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Eckle:  it seems unusual. are you sure its not abotu finances…as in, your mum isnt worried about it being a circus but shes worried abotu the contribution you might be expecting from your parents?

if you want it small, you might have to just invite aunts and uncles and no cousins, if the no children thing will be really a problem

Post # 5
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would just plan the wedding that you can afford and that you envision (which sounds lovely!).  The key to minimzing other people’s input is to not share too many details with them. 

When you do get engaged, you’ll get the most annoying question ever – “When’s the big day?”  I’d go into a logical rant about how could one possibly have figured out a venue and a date when the proposal just took place two days ago is beyond me!


You can give a generic answer, “We don’t have a date yet, but we’re enjoying the engagement period immensely!”

Honesty if you pay for it yourself, and keep your parents as pure guests, then you can minimize the opinions from both.  There’s no need to analyze each relationship with each family member.  Just invite who you want.  No one scenario is going to please everyone so don’t even try to figure that out!

Post # 6
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think sitting down and talking to her about all the options. YOur Mom is going to extremes. I also have cousins who are popping out babies left and right. We are having a no children wedding. We understand some people will not attend because of that. If she really worried perhaps save money and have some money set aside to have professional childcare in a room next door or something. I think explaining to family that due budget and space and the amount children in the family that you aren’t inviting any. Some may kick up a fuss be prepared for it and stick to your guns. Do not have a destination wedidng unless it is really what you and your Fi want.

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