(Closed) Mom wants to do a gift exchange but husband isn't welcome?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 31
4238 posts
Honey bee


I agree that participating in the gift exchange but simply not attending is tacit approval (so to speak) of their choice to shun. If it were me, I’d not attend, participate, etc., just like any other excluded couple who lives down the street or bowls on the same league or whatever.



Post # 32
3067 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

ela0919: I’d also agree with this. I don’t think you should just show up with your husband. Being in an interracial relationship, I can say the last thing you want to do is put your partner in a toxic environment. He should only be subjected to your parents when they’re ready to welcome him into their lives. 

Post # 33
966 posts
Busy bee

i would not show up at all and possibly cut your mother out of your life. I have a sister who is a lesbian. That being said I’m not for gay/lesbian marriage and I am a traditional person when it comes to that. That being said I do support my sisters relationship with her significant other because she’s a important enough person in my life that I’ll do anything for her which means supporting her and adknowdging her gf as well as making an effort to get to know her and build a relationship with her. At the end of the day I don’t agree with the relationship but I support it. Op.. Your mother doesn’t have to agree to your relationship with your husband but she needs to support it, acknowledge him, invite him to events and form a bond with him. 

Post # 34
258 posts
Helper bee

I feel sorry for your husband.  You are not sticking up for him at all in this.

Post # 35
6 posts

If your mom doesn’t want your whole family then why should she get any part of it. I’m not sure the back ground. But I know there is no way I would be with a man who had me stay home to exchange Christmas presents because his mom didng accept me. You need to stop interacting with someone who is essentially disrespecting your marriage, husband, and you.

Post # 38
1200 posts
Bumble bee

Never mind.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by  liaeona.
Post # 39
2132 posts
Buzzing bee

db24:  have you considered counselling with your mum? I’m sorry but I don’t think I could get over my daughter marrying a man 40 years her senior. It’s great that he makes you happy, but it’s a hard pill to swallow.

Post # 40
124 posts
Blushing bee

truthah:  I honestly think that would be your best option. Show up with your husband, and if she turns him away, make it clear she’s turning you BOTH away!

Post # 43
2132 posts
Buzzing bee

db24:  that’s a shame 😔 Her loss though, since everyone else has been able to accept him she will just miss out on family time. Stay strong 😊

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