Post # 1
My mom wants to throw me a bridal shower and invite her friends, some of which I haven’t talked to in years. I’m only inviting two of them to the wedding, so I’m afraid it will be really tacky to have the other ladies come to the shower and buy me gifts if they aren’t invited to the wedding. My mom has stated that she had to go to their kids’ showers when they had them, and I kind of think that’s the true reason she even wants to throw me one. Should I let her throw a shower and invite who she wants, or should I say no to inviting women that I’m not inviting to the wedding?
Post # 3
Your mom is hosting it, let her handle it.
Post # 4
I agree with the pp, since your mom is the hostess, she has to handle it. You’re not the one inviting these women and it should be your mom’s job to let them know they won’t be getting a wedding invite. If they still want to go, then more power to them.
Fi’s aunt hosted a shower for her friend’s daughter and invited people not on the wedding guests list: we didn’t even know when the wedding was. I still went to the shower so it was my choice to attend.
Post # 5
My MIL did this. I hadn’t met 90% of the women in attendance and about 75% were actually invited to the wedding. It depends on your relationship. If it were my mother I would tell her that it’s not appropriate to invite people to the shower who aren’t invited to the wedding. But my mom’s not the type to do that anyway and we are very close. I certainly couldn’t tell my MIL that. I suppose you’ll have to base it on your relationship and how disappointed she would be if you said no.