(Closed) Mom wants to invite 'her' friends to shower, not invited to wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

Your mom is hosting it, let her handle it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with the pp, since your mom is the hostess, she has to handle it.  You’re not the one inviting these women and it should be your mom’s job to let them know they won’t be getting a wedding invite.  If they still want to go, then more power to them.

Fi’s aunt hosted a shower for her friend’s daughter and invited people not on the wedding guests list: we didn’t even know when the wedding was. I still went to the shower so it was my choice to attend.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My MIL did this.  I hadn’t met 90% of the women in attendance and about 75% were actually invited to the wedding.  It depends on your relationship.  If it were my mother I would tell her that it’s not appropriate to invite people to the shower who aren’t invited to the wedding.  But my mom’s not the type to do that anyway and we are very close.  I certainly couldn’t tell my MIL that.  I suppose you’ll have to base it on your relationship and how disappointed she would be if you said no.   

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