(Closed) Mom wants to walk me down the aisle with Daddy?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My mom dropped a hint about doing this also, but like you, I have that same dream about my dad walking me down the aisle. I dont want to hurt her feelings but I expressed to her that I have always wanted that special moment with my dad. My mom and I are really close, but really hasn’t been all that excited/helpful throuh the planning process.

She hasnt full out asked me to walk down the aisle with us, but if she does, I honestly dont know if I would be able to say no :

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can you just say something along the lines of, ‘I would really like to go the traditional route. But I would love it if you could say a few words or read a poem at the ceremony’ maybe that will give the moms something else to focus on! Or, if you end up walking down the isle with both your parents I think thats fine too 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What about giving her a special task like lighting the mothers candle or maybe meeting you at the end of the isle to give you away?  

I’ve seen a few weddings with two people walking the bride down and IMO it doesn’t work well.  Most isles aren’t wide enough for three people to walk side by side and one person has to kinda walk behind.  Also its very awkward for the bride because you are trying to link arms with two people and hold a bouquet.  

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe you could have your mom meet you and your dad at the beginning of the aisle and then walk with your mom and dad the rest of the way?

Here is a quick illustration to show you what I mean lol

 

That way you have some of the walk alone with your dad and then your mom doesnt feel left out?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ok, so your mom would wait at the end of the aisle. (where the aisle runner would begin) Behing the last row of chairs.

I dont know if there are doors that you come out of or how your ceremony is set up, but your dad and you could walk from the doors to the end of the aisle (where you would meet your mom)

Then mom, dad and you could walk to the gazebo all together, but you would still get that moment with your dad walking out of the doors (?) to your mom.

Does this still not make sense?? lol Sorry, maybe I need to draw another picture haha

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I had both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle since they both raised me together and seemed to deserve equal honor in that. But if you don’t want to do that, I second the suggestion of perhaps having your mom meet you part way, or even stand at the front for the “giving away” part (if you’re doing that?).

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since your mother is highly emotional, do you think you could just let this slide?  You’ll still have the father-daughter dance, so you’ll get your moment with your father.  If you can make your mother extraordinarly happy with some change, why not make it?  

 

My mother wants me to wear the lace mantilla her mother brought here from Ireland.  It’s not my style and I don’t really like the thing all that much, but by wearing it for the ceremoney, I know I’m going to make her (and her sisters) insanely happy.  Done. 

 

Of course, if this is one of many concessions you’ve been asked to make, I could totally understand.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t have much advice on how to tell your mom no if it’s truly something you do not want, but I just wanted to share that having both parents walk you down the aisle is actually the standard practice in Jewish weddings. In fact the groom is also walked down the aisle by both of his parents usually. Anyway, you should be able to have the wedding you envisioned. Remind your mom that if she walks with you she won’t get to see you walk down the aisle.

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