Post # 1
So a little background – my mom has a scar from open heart surgery and a few from having various cancerous moles removed, so it’s been difficult to find a dress that will cover up these areas. She’s totally not into the matronly looking traditional MOB outfits and would like to wear a more fashionable dress. We’ve looked and looked but so many dresses are either classy but low cut or a little to “young” for her. So she’s found one she likes that would work to cover up the areas she wants, but it’s black. It’s not completely black – it’s black floor length empire waist and the neck is made out of strands of fake pearls. It is pretty and would be flattering on her, and honestly I don’t give a s**t what she wears, but I feel like people are going to be like WTF why is the MOB in black? Does she not support the marriage? That kind of stuff.
Post # 3
I personally have no issue with moms wearing black. Especially if it’s a “fashionable” dress and not something you would wear to a funeral. I wear black to weddings 99.9999999% of the time and I don’t think it’s that different for moms.
Post # 4
meh, who can argue with a LBD? As long as it’s not something crazy, you’ll be ok : )
Post # 5
Oh, duh, this is the dress in question:
@Melissa – LOL that’s amazing. I might send that to her.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t care!
They will be able to see your mom’s joy on your wedding day and if people are really reading into her dress colour they have other problems and you shouldn’t care what they think!
I think that your mom should wear whatever she is most comfortable in as that is what will make her look the most beautiful. And she will be exuding joy on that day and no one will think anything about the colour of her dress!
Post # 7
I say go for it, and I’m one of the board curmudgeons 😛
Could she get a colored wrap/pashmina so that it’s not like “and the mother wore black”?
Post # 8
i love that! plus it’d work with any kind of shawl or jacket (or nothing!) – depending on her tastes.
Post # 9
My mom is wearing black because she hates color, lol. Her entire wardrobe consists of black, brown, white, beige…neutral colors. I don’t think anyone will blink an eye if your mom wears black. And if they do, eff ’em.
I really like the dress, too. But why is the model posing that way?? So strange!
Here is what my mom is wearing (it’s a Wtoo bridesmaid dress.)
Post # 10
@worcester – the pashmina thing is a good way to incorporate a little color. the wedding is outside in august, though, so it may get a little toasty.
Here’s a related question – what’s the deal with flowers for the MOB and MOG? do people do that? i’m against any sort of prom corsage situation.
Post # 11
I think black dress is totally fine. Plus as long as your mom is clearly happy and enjoying the day, I don’t think anyone could possibly comment on any kind of “funeral vibe” coming from your mom.
I personally wouldn’t even think to notice something like that at all.
Post # 12
I told my Future Mother-In-Law to wear a LBD so I see no problem with it. As long as you mom is happy and comfortable that’s what matters, you don’t want her uncomfortable since that could translate into some not so pretty photos. Some people may notice that she’s wearing black but that’s no longer as tabo as it used to be and not as bad as wearing white. Besides, who cares what everyone else thinks?
Post # 13
Ahaha I like that the overwhelming consensus here is that it’s fine for the MOB to wear black and nobody would think anything of it and then I email my Fiance and he goes “She wants to wear black? Like the color people wear at funerals?”
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
both my Mom and lambster’s mom wore black! along with all my bridesmaids 🙂
i think your mom will look great in that dress! go for it if you like it!
Post # 15
Pretty sure my mom is wearing black. Ha, I actually told her to wear either black or gray. Go for it.
Post # 16
OMG! Your mom can rock that dress? I’m jealous. If she feels good in it, that’s all that matters. Keep in mind that she could a) wear a pretty/silky pashmina around her arms to jazz it up or b) have a corsage or carry a posey that distinguishes her. Some people may still say “why was the MOB wearing black?” but you shouldn’t care what they think anyway. It’s your wedding and you want your mom to be comfortable.