- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
As some of you may remember I am taking both sets of parents overseas and we are eloping around Ausust/September next year. They don’t have to pay for anything more than their food and spending money so they have decided to throw parties when we get back to celebrate with my family and then my FI’s family.
My FI’s family is less than 10 people including us and we all get along really well. My parents families on the other hand has 30 uncles and aunties and “we can’t invite some and not others” so they are all invited.
A little background, I was raised with my mum’s family as my dad did a runner when he discovered mum was having me and intended to keep me. “Dad” is not my biological dad but he legally adopted me when they got married so that I was more accepted etc. Some of his family members called me “the bastard” when I was a kid and I was treated completely differently than my two younger sisters. As I have grown up I have made my own decisions and removed these people from my life and have also had less to do with some members of my mums family for much the same reason.
The party that my parents want to throw will have all of these people there and a few family friends. Mum has started not listening to me when I make suggestions and it’s quickly going from a casual backyard party to a slightly bigger blow out. I am starting to feel that this is no longer about me and us getting married but a party for her and what she wants to do.
Should I just go along with this and let her be happy for a day and spend time with people who would as soon as slap me than wish us well, should I cut numbers back to people I want to see and not invite half of my parents siblings, or should I cut the event short and instead of dinner and dessert and a night of drinking only invite them for an afternoon tea with an assortment of cakes?