- Miss Starlet
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
So, I made a big mistake. BIG! HUGE!
My FH and I recently moved into the house that we finished remodeling. It’s beautiful. He did a great job! The only thing left to do is finish framig and putting up photos and snapshots in frames. We’ve both been looking forward to doing this.
So, we’re going through my drawerful of snapshots, and he pulls out a sealed envelope, and asks me what these are. He starts to open the envelope, so I grab it out of his hands as I realize that it is an envelope full of um, risque photos I let an ex take of me. Oh CRAP!!!
See, I thought that I had destroyed these when I moved out of the house the ex and I shared. Then, I remembered that my brother and cousin were helping me move, so instead of doing anything about it, I tossed the envelope in a photo box, and kind of forgot about it. I totally intended to destroy the pics, and in my mind I had.
So, when FH and I were first dating, the subject came up of putting pics on the web, and he jokingly asked me if there was anything out there that I would be worried about showing up. Funny ha ha. Of course I was like, Psssh NO! So, I didn’t really think I was lying.
Anyway, the night was totally ruined as I ran off and sliced up the pics into itty bitty little peices, and he broke the TV remote. He spent most of the night on the couch, and we didn’t really say anything to each other until the next morning. If I would have found photos like this of one of his exes I would have come unglued, to be totally honest.
When we talked it over the next morning, he was more upset that I had said something like this didn’t exsist, so they materialized, he was shocked, hurt and angry. Just like I would have been and have been. Particularly now that we are combining homes and things from the past are coming out of the woodwork.
Our biggest hurdle to overcome in our relationship is without a doubt, FORGIVING EACH OTHERS PAST!!! We have known each other for years, and we have seen each other in relationships, and as friends out drinking and being silly at get togethers, and all the things that you do with buddies that wouldn’t neccesarily want a future spouse to see. So, yeah, that is our hurdle. I’m so glad that we can talk about these things though, and really, laugh about them the next day!
Have you or your FHs stumbled upon momentos that caused issues with your relationship? How have you handled that?