(Closed) Momma Bees- TMI- does it ever really go back to normal??

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hi there, a few things change but not much. But as far as tightness is concerned, I dont think it does unless you go having one kid after another in the course of a few short years.  lol 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I havent had children, so I dont know, but I remember reading somewhere that the vagina is indredibly strong and powerful muscle, and with the right exorcise can go back to normal after healing from child birth, no real changes or concerns? I’d like to hear real mothers views on this?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Ok, I’m not gonna lie. My bladder control did suffer awhile after giving birth. My pelvic floor was kind of a mess. Kegels help. Darling Husband was honest with me, it took a year to get back to normal but eventually yeah it recovered!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I won’t lie, it never is exactly the same, but yes it does go back to being tight. You have to wait 6 weeks after delivery before getting the go a head to have relations and things definately feel like a tight fit the first couple times afterwards.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@2PeasinaPod:  Yup. But (TMI) I tore on my own, and pretty badly. So yeah. Good times. It went back to normal though! A lot of the “off” feeling was the fact that I had kind of a mental block about it too. I was self conscious, it was still kind of painful for a couple months, you feel like your body isn’t totally “yours” still at that point. So it’s an adjustment, it’s not like 6 weeks is the magical point where you’re totally 100%, at least for me it wasn’t.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have any children yet, but I always remember a guy I knew (a divorced father of 3) saying it was never the same and preferred dating women with no children for this reason.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

@KatyElle:  I feel like that’s what I’m most afraid of…I have two friends who told me their horror stories of how much they tore and it makes me think that I should just go ahead and get the episiotomy. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@MrsConnick:  Well that guy is an ass hole then! Maybe he should get a bigger DICK!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsConnick:  And I can guarantee that if he didn’t know the woman had kids, he wouldn’t be able to tell, so… he’s an idiot.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This frightens me!  🙁  I’ve always wondered, I’ve just been afraid to ask.  Yet another “wonderful, fun thing” that women have to worry about in life.   I’d feel better if guys got horribly droopy balls for a few months afterwards too or something.  Perhaps that makes me evil…but this whole list of body changes for women really makes me a tad jealous of guys!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@2PeasinaPod:  I had an episiotomy and then tore, so there is no guarantee you won’t tear.

@KatyElle:  Agree, what a douche.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

ALOT changed… tightness and Too Much Information… smell also. Not a bad smell.. just differnt. I tore really bad so the stitches were painful and scary. I was afraid to have sex for a few months. Best advice ever.. Kegals!!!!

In the end it all worth it once have your baby.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it`s different for every woman. I have a friend who, before I had my baby, said nothing was the same “down there.”

 

It’s also dependant upon how “traumatic” birth is. If you have a bad tear, episiotomy, forceps, etc, you’re more likely to be different down there.

 

For me, I had a minor tear during birth but after a few months I gotta say everything looks & feels 100% like it did before I had my baby. I did have some pain issues in my perenium where my tear was for a while, but because I was breastfeeding, the lack of estrogen was slowing the healing process (explined my OB).

Even Dear Fiance was surprised at how little things changed! There is hope, you may not find much of a change at all!

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