Post # 17
I voted “No way in hell”, but I would have preferred if there were a softer option along the lines of “Nah, not for me”. It’s not something I’d be interested in personally, but if FH desperately wanted it then I’d be okay with it. I also completely understand why others would want to do it – as a med student I’ve had the privilege of being involved in a number of births, and it’s a beautiful thing. I love watching the expression on the father’s face as he sees his baby for the first time, and I do sometimes think it would have been lovely if that expression had been documented. They look so happy and excited!
Post # 18
I also voted ‘no way in hell,’ but I actually don’t feel that strongly about it. I think the trend is pretty interesting, and some of the photos are so raw and real and beautiful. If we work that hard for something so amazing…then I see why there’s reason to document it.
That said, it’s not for me. At least at this time. First, my hospital doesn’t allow it, and I’m not willing to switch hospitals. Second, birth is gory, nasty, private…and I don’t know that I’m going to want to relive all the bad parts that I’m anticipating come along with it just for the few beautiful shots that I’ll want to look at forever.
I think the shots of mom and baby immediately or close to immediately after birth will be just fine for me.
That said, if you do go forward with it, I’m sure hoping you share some of your favorites!!
Post # 19
@aliavenue: Your Mother-In-Law snuck into the room to film you giving birth?!?! Wow, I’d be LIVID. What was her excuse?
@Treejewel19: I’m not pregnant and don’t have kids, but I don’t think this is something I would consider. I agree that some of the photos are really well done, but I highly doubt I will want anyone other than Darling Husband in the room with me. I’d feel like I was sharing an intimate moment with a random.
Post # 20
@Treejewel19: Um, no. I do not want pics of my baby coming out of my vagina!!!!! My mom has those and I was mortified!!!! No no no!!!! lol Phone pics will be just fine during this occasion, and no photos during the icky part lol
Post # 21
If we do the doula like we are thinking we will, then we’ll have that option, but honestly I’m not sure whether I want that kind of pictures or not. I DEFINITELY want pictures immediately after though. 🙂
Post # 22
I love the idea of having gorgeous photos, especially of the baby post-birth.
But I don’t think I want them enough to have a stranger in the delivery room during that very personal experience. I know the doctor and midwife well, and sure, there will be a few nurses I don’t know…but that’s enough.
I feel like it may be really distracting when I’m trying to be mindful and in the moment.
Darling Husband and I are going to invest in a very good quality camera to take pictures of the baby after birth and for years to come! 🙂
Post # 23
I had a bunch of pictures taken immediately after she was delivered – when she was weighed then given to me during my c-section (the nurses/DH took them) but nothing professional. We also have tons of pictures from the rest of the hospital stay, which I like having. I don’t think I would have liked people taking pictures of me if I had labored (I had a scheduled cesarean), though. I do think some of them are beautiful. To each their own!
Post # 24
@Treejewel19: The idea sounds wonderful, but I would think it would be very difficult to have someone snapping pics of you after you’ve just given birth. Plus having a stranger in the delivery room as I’m laboring? Really not for me.
Post # 25
I had a birth photographer. We went back and forth a bit on the issue, but given that our photographer is not only a friend, she also did our engagement, wedding, and maternity photos, but she also happens to be an RN in the hospital I was delivering at.
So, I can totally see not having a complete stranger capturing your most intimate first moments as a family in an intrusive way.
I barely noticed that she was there, she stayed out of the way, and I have some of the most amazing photos of my support team, of my brand new baby, and I am so thankful that I had an opportunity to have those moments captured in a respectful and artistic way.
I posted some of them with my birth story, but I’ll pop a few on this thread as well:
Post # 26
I wouldn’t have one because I’m way too insecure to have pictures of me taken looking a mess. I know people say you won’t care in the moment, but they don’t know how much I struggle with my appearance without makeup and such. I may ask a relative with a nice camera to come in and stage some pictures after I get a minute to at least put some amount of makeup on (not a full face) and redo my messy bun lol.
Post # 27
I like the end results of these enough, I guess . . . if you’re planning to keep them for personal enjoyment (don’t agree they should be shared) . . . but I can’t handle how the sausage gets made, so to speak. The idea of having anyone in the room who is a stranger who is NOT a medical professional would not have been cool with me. That’s a time to focus on my body, my baby, and my partner.
Sorry, this is a no-go.
Post # 28
@daybyday: That’s a good point… I don’t think these are photos that should be shared on Facebook or framed on the wall. I share them with you guys because, well, let’s face it: you all knew I was pregnant before my own husband did! I don’t blog, I don’t put these on my facebook, or anything like that.
Post # 29
I would never hire a pro photographer to attend a birth – I would find that intrusive and distracting at a time when I only want to be surrounded by a select few people who can help me concentrate. Our doula did a great job of discreetly taking some beautiful photos, which I appreciate, and that’s the only kind of photography I would want of me giving birth. I didn’t even know she was taking them in the moment, so distraction was not an issue, and then Darling Husband and I got to delete anything we didn’t want seeing the light of day.
Post # 30
@aliavenue: What a gorgeous photo!! I’m all screwed up with pregnancy hormones, and it made me tear up…what a tender moment. 🙂
Post # 31
@aliavenue: That picture is amazing! It makes me want to wear a sports bra or tank top (not sure what she’s wearing) under my gown :).
@DaneLady: Your pictures, especially that last one, give me goosebumps and make me tear up.