- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
although i love my family and my Fiance family just as much, i feel like i am the only one who likes ANYthing i have created for our “eat, drink & be married” wedding, aside from my lovely Fiance. i’m an artist/graphic designer and everyone usually LOVES my work. (i dont want to post it here because i dont want people to use it or see it til after they are sent out – but one day i will!) I have designed the save the dates, the invitations, the reception cards, the rsvp cards, the paper roses pomanders/topiary centerpieces. all of it has come from me, my brain, and my hands. anyway, my mother, future Mother-In-Law, and Maid/Matron of Honor have all given me luke-warm feelings about my choice of theme, colors, even my dress. they all are expecting this lavish over the top thing, and i don want that. i feel like i cant please anyone. and then i say to myself, “well i dont give a crap” and then i feel like thats pretty crappy of me to be saying that.
my mom and Mother-In-Law would prefer something more lacey, romantic and eerily similar to their 1984 weddings. Im planning a modern, clean, non-opulent event. a lot of white, navy blue, and hints of pink. its laid back, themed around food and love, but still its on a country club golf course, and definitely not wearing lace (or my mothers juliette cap). my Maid/Matron of Honor and i have opposite tastes and shes being really really good with letting me do what i want and being there for me, but i can see it in her snarky eyes that she hates everything im doing because it has no reminiscence at all to cinderella.
When the issue of the paper design came up, i showed them all knowing that it would be critiqued just as every other work of mine is, and i was ok with that. but i really wanted them to just say they liked it even if they didnt, bc this is my wedding. when we talked about what their issues were with it, they said it looked too plain and not romantic enough. i then told my mother and Mother-In-Law that i would vomit on the spot if i see even ONE letter in script, because im not hosting that kind of wedding. they rolled their eyes and stayed quiet – but i wonder why they are so overly opinionated about it – it’s like they haven’t known me and my personality my whole life.
im the furthest thing from a so-called bridezilla and i am having a hard time communicating to those around me that i really just want what i want – and surprisingly what i want is on the more contemporary, quiet side. i dont want to become demanding in any way, but they are putting a damper on my plans and not really making it fun.