Post # 32
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
It is really annoying to have to deal with other’s financial issues. When I was in college, my father co-signed for my first car. After I was done with college and working, I took over the payments and insurance. Years later, I was able to get my own car with no co-sign and gave my old car to my dad. My dad has paid for various things for my sisters as well, but they let things lapse all the time. To this day, I will recieve a phone call from a bill collector looking for my dad because of something one of my sisters failed to pay. It’s really aggravating. I’ve become a mean B because of it and gladly give the bill collector their phone numbers and tell them to get rid of mine. We are all in a good relationship but I can’t stand the money issues and won’t tolerate it. I have helped them out before but they know not to ask me again. It’s just better to not mix that stuff, in my opinion.
Post # 33
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Helper bee
I totally agree with your SO, especially if you have your own credit card debt to be paying off. I think you two (you and SO) need to sit down and discuss how entangled your lives should be with your parents. How do your parents not have any credit, when your dad has been working for years? Also, why are they leasing cars, couldn’t they afford a much cheeper car (than leases) with the $800/month you are paying her?
Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
i do agree with SO with not giving her a raise, and of course SOs cousin knows because i fb’d it i know big no no but i didnt think about it.
I have settled for not giving her a raise and once we part ways that will be it, if she still wants to watch LO for the same amount good if not ill have to find another option. Because i dont plan on quitting my job.
you have all opened my eyes, i just didnt feel it was right to not give her a raise but after hearing all of you i know what i have to do now
Post # 35
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Worker bee
i personally would not be paying anyone $800 a month is to much money to be paying her especially if its your mom. I dont really hear of grandparents charging their daughters to watch their children. Dont tell her about your raise and certainly dont pay her more money for something that could be done for free