- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Thanks for all the comments and encouragement! We will try it again next week and see How it goes. 🙂
Give him time to adjust to this new thing. The kids that progress are the ones that their parents make going a priority. If he’s still acting up in a few weeks, send me a PM or talk to his instructor. Little patterns can be picked up upon and certain kids react better with certain things helping them(sometimes all you need is a pair of small goggles or a set of ear plugs, some kids respond better to private lessons, there are little tricks to distract them from things they may have anticipation nerves about, etc).
The only case that I have ever had when it didn’t get better and couldn’t be resolved was a toddler who had just gotten diagnoised with autism and his parents were struggling to accept it in a lot of ways. The water was too much stimulation and the noisy enviroment of the pool made it miserable for him. There was lots of biting and kicking(I left work with many bruises as I had two other kids who were kickers as well) and high pitch screaming for pretty much 30 minutes straight before mom and dad decided to hold off on lessons. We tried everything, moving him to a time when no one else was in the pool to take care of the noise, etc. And even then, it got a little bit better after a few classes. He would shriek giggle a couple of times a class and there would be about 5 minutes of happy quiet when we found something he enjoyed before going back to screaming when the task was changed.
It will get better if you have a decent instructor whose good at keeping them occupied and distracted and keeps the class moving.
He’s only a little over two years old for goodness sake. Lots of children of his age find it difficult to mix with other children under normal circumstances, never mind in a noisy, wet, scary and uncertain swimming pool.
Forget the money and concentrate on making trips to the pool fun. Just now let him go up and down the steps. He won’t want to keep going up and down the steps forever. Just go and take a few toys and have a great time together – just the two of you.
Forget the embarrassment. Your son isn’t there to perform in a particular way. At two he isn’t there to socialise. He’s there to have fun with you and associate the fun with being in water. That fun will eventually lead to confidence which will lead to learning to swim. Swimming is a fantastic skill to have anf you never know – maybe one day he’ll be an Olympic swimmer.
In the meantime, if you want to socialise take one other mom and child with you. Children learn to socialise best with one or two known children rather than putting them into an unpredictable and challenging toddler crowd.
Try it again… it might take a couple of classes but he will eventually settle into the class and take it as part of his routine. Hopefully.
I did mommy and me swim class with my 2 year old when he was a baby (a couple of months old) and he screamed and cried the entire class the very first class. The second class he cried the first half of the class and by the 3rd class he was fine. By the 4th class, he didn’t want to leave the pool. So it takes some time. Good luck.
I would take him to the public swim between now and then to get him more used to the surroundings.
To the person who mentioned autism, please be careful. The OP already mentioned that she is having his speech evaluated. Why alarm her? I say that because we had our 2.5 year old evaluated for speech and the initial evaluator scared the hell out of me bu throwing out a bunch of stuff, much of which could have been a flag for autism. I cried for weeks on the way to work. But it turns out my daughter is fine (per her speech therapist), she’s just a pistol who is super stubborn and who has a mild speech delay.
OP, our daughter is almost 3 now and we just started her in gymnastics. Her first two classes were a disaster. She didn’t want to follow instructions and wanted to run around to the items that looked like the most fun. Her instructor assured us that it was normal and asked us to hang in there for a few more sessions. She’s five sessions in now, and she’s doing very well!! She occasionally still needs a reminder from the instructor, but she’s otherwise on task and loving it.
It’s all just new to him. Give him some time. Good luck mamma:)
It sounds like he’s just being a toddler. They are unpredictable! No one can ever expect a toddler to behave perfectly, ever. Any mom worth her salt will understand. At my mommy and me swim class, babies would regularly break down in tantrums or crying fits, and no one batted an eye.
Hope next week is better for you! And don’t stress. It’ll be what it is. Maybe he’s just not ready? Maybe you try in another year or whatever. Whatever happens, it’ll be fine.
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