(Closed) Mommy issues anyone?!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Wow.  I admire you for standing your ground.  It sounds like your mom is throwing a tantrum fit for a three year old! 

My strategy was never to argue about it.  My mom would ask why and I would say “Why doesn’t matter because I am not changing my mind.”  It shut her down every time.

Post # 6
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

@nskillet:

Maybe there is some special way that you can think of to include all the special people in your day-YOUR way??? Do a brain storming for a special way to include each:

Your Mom

Your Step-mom

Your Step-dad

Since you are already having your dad walk you down the aisle.  Best Wishes!!! 🙂

Post # 7
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am totally having mommy issues too!  My mom is the opposite.  She is completely uninterested in the wedding.  When I asked if she wanted to be involved in the planning (I didn’t want to leave her out) she said “not particularly”.  Before we told her we were engaged, I had to warn my Fiance that she wouldn’t be excited, and not to take offense.  That is just her.

Recently, my Fiance and I have moved in together.  When I told my mom, she totally flipped out and is now not speaking to me.

She has never committed to attending my wedding (it is a destination wedding in Mexico), and now with her anger over us living together, it seems pretty doubtful.  Its unfortunate, as my dad has dementia and won’t be able to come (even if it was local) and my brother probably won’t come because he lives at home and won’t want to cross my mother.  So at this point, it looks like the wedding will happen without any of my close family there.

Post # 9
Member
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m convinced. After two tear filled “conversations” with my mom… no, you just can’t win. UGH! Mothers! Sometimes I wonder if they’re just doing this stuff because their moms did it to them!

Post # 10
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@nskillet: Thanks nskillet.  I am going to start by writing her a letter and hopefully that will open the door to an open face-to-face conversation.

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